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Guys, I need to vent. And I need you to make fun of me, because I fucked up pretty bad.

Last Saturday, I went out with a girl from okcupid. We went for drinks and clicked instantly, had lots of things in common, all that. After a while, we started making out and she suggested that we went to a club so we could spend the night together dancing. We did, and the night was amazing. We danced a lot, made out a lot, had a lot of fun together and overall amazing chemistry, to the point where we were approached by random people at the club saying how cute of a couple we were. I haven't dated much, but she was easily the girl I've had the most chemistry with in my life.

The night goes on like that, and we decide to leave. And then it's when I fuck up. She asked me if I wanted to go somewhere so we could have sex, and I declined it. "Why did you decline it, you dumb fuck?" you ask? My motivations were two: first, insecurity. My body image was pretty fucked up that day, and it did not help that I wasn't expecting sex so I did not take care of myself as I should. The second, was on an emotional level. The last two girls I've dated, we also went very quickly to the intimacy part (one in the first date, the other in the second), and in both cases it ended badly, and in my mind it was because I ended up rushing things to much. I tried explaining this second point to her, but I don't think she accepted it very well. At the moment, she seemed to be ok with that, just a bit confused. But after our date she's been treating me quite coldly through text, and I'm pretty sure she's ghosting me soon.

So, as I said, I fucked up real bad. I'm not swimming in girls either, I'm 26 and she would be the third girl I've ever been intimate with, so it's not like I have a lot of other options. Plus, it's pretty hard to meet someone I have as much chemistry with as her.

So please, make fun of me, make a lot a fun. I need to be made fun of for, so I don't ever repeat this mistake with anyone else. I may be one of the few heterossexual, single guys, who refused sex and ended up fucking up his chances with a very pretty, amazing girl at the same time.

If anyone, I'd be making fun of the girl if she can't accept your excuses for not having sex because of past experiences and body image. Maybe you needed a better time, or further into a relationship. Maybe you should start giving a disclaimer that you don't have sex on the first date. If she is going to ghost you over this, she's not worth it. Forget her, simple as that.
Omg. I think I'm gonna cry. I'm talking to this girl on snapchat. She's 19 and really fucking cute. I told myself I wasn't gonna pursue anyone under 21 after my immature as fuck girlfriend but fuck it, I don't have to marry this girl. She posts stuff on her stories a lot at like 4 am. She had said that she always sleeps around that time so I asked her if she had insomnia. She tells me she doesn't know what that is. Kinda weird but no biggie. I explain it to her. Tonight we're texting and she says that she really wants to gain weight because she's really thin and that it's hard for her to gain. I tell her that she should try counting calories or at least guessing. Her response is "wtf are calories?" My jaw literally dropped. I asked her if she was kidding and she said she was serious. So I actually explain to her what calories are and how much she needs to eat to gain weight. She then asks me, no fucking joke, "Does pizza have calories?" I literally shed a tear. She is completely serious. I don't even know what to say. This is the dumbest person I've ever spoken to and I feel mean for even thinking it.
Maybe she's actually 14.
 

Kureransu

Member
Omg. I think I'm gonna cry. I'm talking to this girl on snapchat. She's 19 and really fucking cute. I told myself I wasn't gonna pursue anyone under 21 after my immature as fuck girlfriend but fuck it, I don't have to marry this girl. She posts stuff on her stories a lot at like 4 am. She had said that she always sleeps around that time so I asked her if she had insomnia. She tells me she doesn't know what that is. Kinda weird but no biggie. I explain it to her. Tonight we're texting and she says that she really wants to gain weight because she's really thin and that it's hard for her to gain. I tell her that she should try counting calories or at least guessing. Her response is "wtf are calories?" My jaw literally dropped. I asked her if she was kidding and she said she was serious. So I actually explain to her what calories are and how much she needs to eat to gain weight. She then asks me, no fucking joke, "Does pizza have calories?" I literally shed a tear. She is completely serious. I don't even know what to say. This is the dumbest person I've ever spoken to and I feel mean for even thinking it.

Ignorance is bliss.

but seriously, I don't think I've ever laughed so hard at 6 a.m.

thanks
 

Jokab

Member
Signs of not caring as much from my GF's side keep piling up. I previously wrote in this thread about her not being touchy around her family (no reason to really, her sister is with her bf and the family is open about that stuff), and now also around her friends which we hung out with on Monday. She stayed over that night and while we did have sex she felt very quiet and distant in general. She hasn't initiated conversation on text in like two weeks and generally doesn't respond to my snapchats anymore, which she used to like 90% of the time. She always eventually responds on text but it's all very short.

Also (and I know this is not healthy behavior, but I wouldn't do it unless there were other signs, which there are) she is often online a lot on messenger on her days off and doesn't even read my snaps or instagram links until very late. Things like that might seem petty to you all, but it's the change in behavior that bothers me.

I've asked her the last two times we've been alone if anything is up but she has said all is fine. Not sure I believe her honestly, it feels like something has changed. Gonna call her after work and tell her that I don't feel good about all this. Very nervous about it as this follows pretty much exactly the same pattern as my last (3 months) relationship.

Any advice on how to frame the talk? Listing all the things that bother me is probably not a good idea.
 

Booser

Member
Signs of not caring as much from my GF's side keep piling up. I previously wrote in this thread about her not being touchy around her family (no reason to really, her sister is with her bf and the family is open about that stuff), and now also around her friends which we hung out with on Monday. She stayed over that night and while we did have sex she felt very quiet and distant in general. She hasn't initiated conversation on text in like two weeks and generally doesn't respond to my snapchats anymore, which she used to like 90% of the time. She always eventually responds on text but it's all very short.

Also (and I know this is not healthy behavior, but I wouldn't do it unless there were other signs, which there are) she is often online a lot on messenger on her days off and doesn't even read my snaps or instagram links until very late. Things like that might seem petty to you all, but it's the change in behavior that bothers me.

I've asked her the last two times we've been alone if anything is up but she has said all is fine. Not sure I believe her honestly, it feels like something has changed. Gonna call her after work and tell her that I don't feel good about all this. Very nervous about it as this follows pretty much exactly the same pattern as my last (3 months) relationship.

There could be many reasons, but honestly it doesn't sound good. From my own experience, if this is constant, then it's classic pre-breakup behaviour. I'm hoping it's not as you seem to care about her a lot and worry for her. I hope you can work it out but you gotta prepare for the worst here buddy.

Just try not to be too confrontational about it. That's the hardest bit because of all the built up frustration.
 

Jokab

Member
There could be many reasons, but honestly it doesn't sound good. From my own experience, if this is constant, then it's classic pre-breakup behaviour. I'm hoping it's not as you seem to care about her a lot and worry for her. I hope you can work it out but you gotta prepare for the worst here buddy.

Just try not to be too confrontational about it. That's the hardest bit because of all the built up frustration.

Exactly my thoughts yeah, sounds not very good.

Do you have any advice on how to avoid being confrontational? I'm thinking just tell her how I feel about the situation, and making it about my feelings is the best way.
 

Booser

Member
Exactly my thoughts yeah, sounds not very good.

Do you have any advice on how to avoid being confrontational? I'm thinking just tell her how I feel about the situation, and making it about my feelings is the best way.

Hard to say. Maybe do something nice for her, then lead into saying that you did it to cheer her up because she seemed a little down lately and you were willing to talk if anything was wrong? She might open up to that.

Bottom line though, it's hard to get people to talk if they don't want to. You feel like you're in a horrible limbo.
 

NIGHT-

Member
Exactly my thoughts yeah, sounds not very good.

Do you have any advice on how to avoid being confrontational? I'm thinking just tell her how I feel about the situation, and making it about my feelings is the best way.


You know, these situations suck. But you don't want this to drag out, and women tend to do that until they're comfortable with letting you go, for whatever reason. It does seem like she's distancing herself from you for whatever reason. She could be emotionally falling for someone else, lingering for the single life, or maybe she's just got a lot on her plate. But, I'd go with your gut feeling on this.
 

gaiages

Banned
Exactly my thoughts yeah, sounds not very good.

Do you have any advice on how to avoid being confrontational? I'm thinking just tell her how I feel about the situation, and making it about my feelings is the best way.

Yeah, it's sounding pretty bad now. Just try talking to her, to be honest no matter how gentle you are about it she'll probably think you're being 'confrontational' anyway.
 

Astral

Member
Exactly my thoughts yeah, sounds not very good.

Do you have any advice on how to avoid being confrontational? I'm thinking just tell her how I feel about the situation, and making it about my feelings is the best way.

That would be the best approach according to my counseling training. Tell her that when she does this or that it makes you feel this or that way. That way it at least sounds less confrontational and avoids putting blame on her. But then again people are different. When did this with my ex she wouldn't give a fuck and still get pissed. She might still feel like you're accusing her of shit.
 

Jokab

Member
That would be the best approach according to my counseling training. Tell her that when she does this or that it makes you feel this or that way. That way it at least sounds less confrontational and avoids putting blame on her. But then again people are different. When did this with my ex she wouldn't give a fuck and still get pissed. She might still feel like you're accusing her of shit.

That's what I'm thinking yes.

Trying my best atm to not build up doomsday scenarios in my head before calling her. Really difficult right now.
 

Jokab

Member
Double post but eh.

Well, thankfully it wasn't that bad.

I told her that I felt more like a friend than her boyfriend when we were with others and that feels really bad for me and that she has felt more distant lately. She tells me that she for some reason is uncomfortable when we two are with others, she doesn't know why, it's always been like that. But that it's not anything I've done or to do with me really, it's just her feeling. She said it's just something she has to get used to. She doesn't mind if I'm touchy with her though, it's just that she has some mental block in initiating contact when we're with her friends or family. I asked if there's anything I can do to alleviate the block but apparently not really. Not sure what to do about this other than leave it be.

She also thought things had been weird between us since midsummer when we hung out with her friends. I made some comments afterwards that I honestly regret, where I commented on things her friends said that I thought were very odd. Like not racist or anything, but just weird things that stuck out to me. It had been on her mind for a long time and I apologized and said I would like to hang out with them again, I had been more harsh than I really thought. I believe this was a big problem for her because she has said that one major reason for breaking up with her last boyfriend was because he didn't like his friends and didn't want to hang out with them. I knew this, but it seems that my comments came across as more harsh than I had previously thought.

Further we talked about how the relationship had hit a routine where we meet at my place too much and watch TV or a movie and then sleep. Both of us fully agreed on this and decided to make more efforts to do fun things out of my apartment. Going to dinner this weekend. :)

Honestly this all stems from both of us being bad at communicating. We both agreed it's something we need to work on.
 

Servbot24

Banned
Lack of communication really is such a killer, it's a good thing y'all talked. I know I'd be a happier man today if I had done that at the right time.
 
We're finished now. Friends, that's it.

And well I am over her lol.

No, you arent. Cut ties completely. I used to defend myself in this way to my friends. It has gotten me nowhere.

Just my 2 cents :)

Ps: nice work jokab. This guy is doing it right. So yall are gonna work it out? Tell her how you feel about her friends thing.

Also, try to ditch the expectation of receiving snaps and shit imo. People don't want to be held accountable for little stuff like that. This could be your relationship shifting gears, not necessarily a bad thing.
 

Jokab

Member
Ps: nice work jokab. This guy is doing it right. So yall are gonna work it out? Tell her how you feel about her friends thing.

Also, try to ditch the expectation of receiving snaps and shit imo. People don't want to be held accountable for little stuff like that. This could be your relationship shifting gears, not necessarily a bad thing.

Yeah I think so. She gave no hints of wanting to give up on things. What friends thing do you mean? I apologized for being a bit of an ass about midsummer and that I do want to see those friends again. She was under the impression that I didn't want to at all, but now she knows that I do.

I guess true, it's just that we went from responding to every snap sent to eachother to me barely getting any responses. That's a change in behavior that hasn't been telegraphed, which left me worried. That's all.
 
Omg. I think I'm gonna cry. I'm talking to this girl on snapchat. She's 19 and really fucking cute. I told myself I wasn't gonna pursue anyone under 21 after my immature as fuck girlfriend but fuck it, I don't have to marry this girl. She posts stuff on her stories a lot at like 4 am. She had said that she always sleeps around that time so I asked her if she had insomnia. She tells me she doesn't know what that is. Kinda weird but no biggie. I explain it to her. Tonight we're texting and she says that she really wants to gain weight because she's really thin and that it's hard for her to gain. I tell her that she should try counting calories or at least guessing. Her response is "wtf are calories?" My jaw literally dropped. I asked her if she was kidding and she said she was serious. So I actually explain to her what calories are and how much she needs to eat to gain weight. She then asks me, no fucking joke, "Does pizza have calories?" I literally shed a tear. She is completely serious. I don't even know what to say. This is the dumbest person I've ever spoken to and I feel mean for even thinking it.

Yeah but does she "get" Arrested Development?
 

Booser

Member
Yeah I think so. She gave no hints of wanting to give up on things. What friends thing do you mean? I apologized for being a bit of an ass about midsummer and that I do want to see those friends again. She was under the impression that I didn't want to at all, but now she knows that I do.

I guess true, it's just that we went from responding to every snap sent to eachother to me barely getting any responses. That's a change in behavior that hasn't been telegraphed, which left me worried. That's all.


Sometimes that stuff isn't "telegraphed". People just shift their habits and change their minds, esp when it comes to social media crap like Snapchat. It all gets boring after a while. I tend to dive into shit too and then drop it.

Glad you two talked it out.
 

Jokab

Member
Sometimes that stuff isn't "telegraphed". People just shift their habits and change their minds, esp when it comes to social media crap like Snapchat. It all gets boring after a while. I tend to dive into shit too and then drop it.

Glad you two talked it out.

I mean I'd agree if two people just started dating, but we've been together for 7 months. She got super upset when we lost our 130 day snapstreak or whatever it was. To go from that to barely replying is to me a sign that something's up. Which it was, obviously.
 

NIGHT-

Member
I mean I'd agree if two people just started dating, but we've been together for 7 months. She got super upset when we lost our 130 day snapstreak or whatever it was. To go from that to barely replying is to me a sign that something's up. Which it was, obviously.


I'd still be cautious. Even though she says everything is alright, she could be holding out until something better comes along. But you never know. These signs always show up before a storm
 

Jokab

Member
I'd still be cautious. Even though she says everything is alright, she could be holding out until something better comes along. But you never know. These signs always show up before a storm

She didn't say everything is alright though. We identified a few issues that we will work on together.
 
Well, at least out of nowhere I got a date with a very cute Tinder girl, who lives like 5 minutes from home lol. Plus, next week I may have another date with another cute Tinder girl, so at least I got options. I just need to remember to chill out and enjoy the moment, instead of creating so much expectations over the damn thing. If anything, my past two experiences (including the saturday girl) have shown me that I need to fucking relax and not act based on bad prior experiences.

The girl from saturday also messaged me yesterday. I had asked for a film recommendation the day before, so she texted me asking if I had seen it. The conversation was still very anwkward, with I answering her normally and she barely saying anything, but at least its a sign of life, though I'm trying to keep my expectations in check.

Once again, thanks for the help guys. Posting here is always a great way to vent my frustrations and to course correct some stuff I've been doing wrong. I feel like I've come a long way since I started the whole dating thing, but there's still a lot I've got to fix in myself, and a lot of insecurity I've got to deal with before I'm ready for a relationship, though I don't plan to quit dating because any experience is welcome at this point.
 

Afrocious

Member
I've always had a stigma against wanting casual sex even though I've had it a few times, and it was always something that sort of happened when the woman wanted me.

I guess, as slimy as this sounds, I'd like to have more of it with different women in order to help me appreciate sex more. I've always felt weird about bringing this up because I feel it's a thin rope to walk on where it's easy to fall into being gross when I don't want to. Or perhaps I am. I have no clue. I hope I'm not.

I suppose one solution is to meet more women and do that whole numbers game.
 

gaiages

Banned
I'd still be cautious. Even though she says everything is alright, she could be holding out until something better comes along. But you never know. These signs always show up before a storm

They talked it out. You have to have some semblance of trust in long term relationships or else you're gonna start getting paranoid and what you think is happening really will happen. Self fulfilling prophecy and all that.
 

Astral

Member
Calorie girl is 19. I needed to confirm since lots of 16 year olds lie about their age on dating apps. I guess she's just kinda...dumb. Will not pursue.
 
Has -- or does -- anyone here had so much self-esteem issues that whenever a female approaches you and she isn't blackout drunk, you're immediately suspicious?

Cuz I think I've become so fucked up in the head through my life that I just can't give approaching women the benefit of the doubt. A lifetime of being ignored or teased by girls has just conditioned me into putting up full guard and just genuinely not believing they're approaching me out of interest, but because of some ulterior motive.

Any advice on how to snap out of this toxic mindset? Because I just can't.
 
Has -- or does -- anyone here had so much self-esteem issues that whenever a female approaches you and she isn't blackout drunk, you're immediately suspicious?

Cuz I think I've become so fucked up in the head through my life that I just can't give approaching women the benefit of the doubt. A lifetime of being ignored or teased by girls has just conditioned me into putting up full guard and just genuinely not believing they're approaching me out of interest, but because of some ulterior motive.

Any advice on how to snap out of this toxic mindset? Because I just can't.

Therapy.
 

Astral

Member

Basically. Try to think about why you're feeling this way. What has happened in the past that supports this belief? What are some alternatives? Do you know for sure if you've ever been approached because a girl was interested in some way? If so, use that as a counter-argument whenever you think that the girl must have some ulterior motive. "Wait a minute. Girls have been attracted to me before. This can easily be the reason I'm being approached right now." That's all I got.
 
Has -- or does -- anyone here had so much self-esteem issues that whenever a female approaches you and she isn't blackout drunk, you're immediately suspicious?

Cuz I think I've become so fucked up in the head through my life that I just can't give approaching women the benefit of the doubt. A lifetime of being ignored or teased by girls has just conditioned me into putting up full guard and just genuinely not believing they're approaching me out of interest, but because of some ulterior motive.

Any advice on how to snap out of this toxic mindset? Because I just can't.

I'll admit my first suspicion is any girl messaging me online FIRST is a bot. Unless it's on Bumble I guess, but then again I've had 0 hits on there.

In person though, nah.
 
Alright everyone! I'm jumping back into the fray with quite the current situation, and i'm sure i'll be looking for advice in the days/weeks to come.

So, i've been dating this year as many of you know. Things have been going fairly well this year, although as many of you know, the world of dating is a tumultuous one.

So, I just met a new girl this past weekend. She's attractive - nice smile, great eyes, good body. Met her at a party last weekend. To be honest, I didn't really think much of her, and she seemed to be drawn to me like a magnet. However, she was running around, being a big flirt around the party as well, so I didn't really pay her any special attention. However, it turns out i'd be driving her to a buddy's house so she could crash there while she sobered up. We went to a diner, talked, and turns out she wanted me BAD. Was demanding my number, yada yada yada. While during our brief convo, she caught wind from my big-mouthed friend that I am kind of a huge, kinky freak in the bedroom. I dropped her off at my buddy's house, but she hit me up and I wound up going back there and we stayed up all night hooking up. She was smitten, to say the least.

She has a hectic work schedule (she's an overnight nurse at a hospital) and the few days since Sunday have been packed with things for her to do, but we've been in constant communication, and things have rapidly developed, especially in regards to our shared respective kinks.

So, this all sounds like a slam dunk right? Well fate seems to have a curveball hiding for us all my friends. So, our relationship has definitely taken on one of a Dom & sub, and we were planning on playing around Friday morning after her shift. We've established a full-honesty in regards to our communication. Now, she was upfront with me & I was with her - this was all new, we weren't exclusive, but we are super, SUPER intrigued with one another and want to see how this goes, without a doubt. However - there is someone else.

When she first told me of him, he was someone whom she had been seeing mostly out of pity - it was a friend of hers who had been dumped by his fiance, and she was having a lot of oral sexual encounters with him to help him get over her. Specifically, they were meeting up every wednesday. It had become a ritual. He doesn't share any of her kinks, which is a big deal for her now because she has yet to meet someone in years that shares any of her bedroom interests. Now, i'm pretty laid back. She told me about their standing weekly date, and I am okay with it FOR NOW - i'll be honest, i'm definitely developing feelings for this girl, but i'm not quite ready to get into a full relationship nor is she. However, the standing date guy told her today that he wants to start dating her - not exclusively at first, but more of an active dating situation. He normally never stays overnight & I was expecting to hear from her, but she snuck away to give me an update as to what happened.

This all just happened tonight. I'm not quite sure what to make of it just yet. I just feel like i'm at such a huge disadvantage in this because he's known her longer, but I can tell she REALLY wants to be with me. So, i'm not quite sure what to make of all this. He's going to be spending the night tonight, and me & her will be discussing things tomorrow.

I just wanted all of ya'll potential input or guidance on this. Yes, its a fucked up situation, i'm aware.
 

Tsukumo

Member
Omg. I think I'm gonna cry. I'm talking to this girl on snapchat. She's 19 and really fucking cute. I told myself I wasn't gonna pursue anyone under 21 after my immature as fuck girlfriend but fuck it, I don't have to marry this girl. She posts stuff on her stories a lot at like 4 am. She had said that she always sleeps around that time so I asked her if she had insomnia. She tells me she doesn't know what that is. Kinda weird but no biggie. I explain it to her. Tonight we're texting and she says that she really wants to gain weight because she's really thin and that it's hard for her to gain. I tell her that she should try counting calories or at least guessing. Her response is "wtf are calories?" My jaw literally dropped. I asked her if she was kidding and she said she was serious. So I actually explain to her what calories are and how much she needs to eat to gain weight. She then asks me, no fucking joke, "Does pizza have calories?" I literally shed a tear. She is completely serious. I don't even know what to say. This is the dumbest person I've ever spoken to and I feel mean for even thinking it.

You are being lead on.
And you deserve it, since you think she is "the dumbest person" ever.
 

gwailo

Banned
I just wanted all of ya'll potential input or guidance on this. Yes, its a fucked up situation, i'm aware.

The girl needs to be honest with her friend. It's probably inevitable that he wanted to make their relationship more substantial. He's still stinging from the breakup with his fiancé (what was the timeframe between the breakup and pity blowjobs?) and he has someone coming over on a schedule to give him oral. If she doesn't want anything more, she needs to bring this up, even if it might affect the friendship.
 
Alright everyone! I'm jumping back into the fray with quite the current situation, and i'm sure i'll be looking for advice in the days/weeks to come.

So, i've been dating this year as many of you know. Things have been going fairly well this year, although as many of you know, the world of dating is a tumultuous one.

So, I just met a new girl this past weekend. She's attractive - nice smile, great eyes, good body. Met her at a party last weekend. To be honest, I didn't really think much of her, and she seemed to be drawn to me like a magnet. However, she was running around, being a big flirt around the party as well, so I didn't really pay her any special attention. However, it turns out i'd be driving her to a buddy's house so she could crash there while she sobered up. We went to a diner, talked, and turns out she wanted me BAD. Was demanding my number, yada yada yada. While during our brief convo, she caught wind from my big-mouthed friend that I am kind of a huge, kinky freak in the bedroom. I dropped her off at my buddy's house, but she hit me up and I wound up going back there and we stayed up all night hooking up. She was smitten, to say the least.

She has a hectic work schedule (she's an overnight nurse at a hospital) and the few days since Sunday have been packed with things for her to do, but we've been in constant communication, and things have rapidly developed, especially in regards to our shared respective kinks.

So, this all sounds like a slam dunk right? Well fate seems to have a curveball hiding for us all my friends. So, our relationship has definitely taken on one of a Dom & sub, and we were planning on playing around Friday morning after her shift. We've established a full-honesty in regards to our communication. Now, she was upfront with me & I was with her - this was all new, we weren't exclusive, but we are super, SUPER intrigued with one another and want to see how this goes, without a doubt. However - there is someone else.

When she first told me of him, he was someone whom she had been seeing mostly out of pity - it was a friend of hers who had been dumped by his fiance, and she was having a lot of oral sexual encounters with him to help him get over her. Specifically, they were meeting up every wednesday. It had become a ritual. He doesn't share any of her kinks, which is a big deal for her now because she has yet to meet someone in years that shares any of her bedroom interests. Now, i'm pretty laid back. She told me about their standing weekly date, and I am okay with it FOR NOW - i'll be honest, i'm definitely developing feelings for this girl, but i'm not quite ready to get into a full relationship nor is she. However, the standing date guy told her today that he wants to start dating her - not exclusively at first, but more of an active dating situation. He normally never stays overnight & I was expecting to hear from her, but she snuck away to give me an update as to what happened.

This all just happened tonight. I'm not quite sure what to make of it just yet. I just feel like i'm at such a huge disadvantage in this because he's known her longer, but I can tell she REALLY wants to be with me. So, i'm not quite sure what to make of all this. He's going to be spending the night tonight, and me & her will be discussing things tomorrow.

I just wanted all of ya'll potential input or guidance on this. Yes, its a fucked up situation, i'm aware.

As of now you aren't exclusive so take the whole thing with a grain of salt. But tbh, I dunno if I buy this is just pity hangouts and pity blowjobs. Because I aint never met a girl who would blow me every week just because I was sad (lawd I wish).

Be cautious. See others. Don't get too attached. In a few weeks if everything is basically the same just say that this whole situation aint working for you.
 
As of now you aren't exclusive so take the whole thing with a grain of salt. But tbh, I dunno if I buy this is just pity hangouts and pity blowjobs. Because I aint never met a girl who would blow me every week just because I was sad (lawd I wish).

Be cautious. See others. Don't get too attached. In a few weeks if everything is basically the same just say that this whole situation aint working for you.

Yeah, unless you're NeoGAF's Vern, that's super weird.

I'll echo the advice to see other people in the meantime. Until she's ready to commit, you shouldn't commit, even emotionally. Setting yourself up for big disappointment if you're not careful.
 

Astral

Member
You are being lead on.
And you deserve it, since you think she is "the dumbest person" ever.

Lead on? How? To believe she's dumb lol? I mean I wouldn't be surprised if she was just fucking with me but even then I don't why she would be unless she was bored. I honestly think she isn't. She's lived a very sheltered life from what I can tell and was homeschooled for quite a bit (apparently not very well). I'm not trying to make fun of her and I'm still talking to her. I'm just utterly shocked.
 

vern

Member
Yeah, unless you're NeoGAF's Vern, that's super weird.

I'll echo the advice to see other people in the meantime. Until she's ready to commit, you shouldn't commit, even emotionally. Setting yourself up for big disappointment if you're not careful.

That's weird for me even. :O
 
Lead on? How? To believe she's dumb lol? I mean I wouldn't be surprised if she was just fucking with me but even then I don't why she would be unless she was bored. I honestly think she isn't. She's lived a very sheltered life from what I can tell and was homeschooled for quite a bit (apparently not very well). I'm not trying to make fun of her and I'm still talking to her. I'm just utterly shocked.

I dunno what dude was talking about frankly. Just keep on keeping on man. Not knowing what a calorie is is suspect. That's like maximum grade 10 knowledge for a formal definition. More like 10 years old for a base concept.
 
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