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Asexual Woman Who 'Hates Sex' Is Marrying Recovered Porn Addict

DeepEnigma

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Asexual Woman Who 'Hates Sex' Is Marrying Recovered Porn Addict


An asexual woman has discussed her unlikely relationship with a “recovered porn and sex addict” on Channel 4's new digital series Love Against the Odds.

Alice, who identifies as asexual, revealed she’s been dating Harvey for five years and insisted that the pair aren’t “mismatched” despite her not being able to experience “sexual attraction”.

Speaking about their relationship, Alice began: “I identify as heteroromantic asexual. I don't experience any sexual attraction or desire.

“Being with me could mean that I won't ever be able to have sex. It means I fall in love like anyone else, but I don't experience any sexual attraction.”

Alice and Harvey struck up an unlikely relationship 5 years ago. Credit: Channel 4


But despite their obvious differences, Harvey insisted: "We're not mismatched - we're just different."

Harvey is a “recovered porn addict” who used to spend up to 20 hours a day “going to the gym, eating, gaming and masturbating.”

He explained: “I had a pornography addiction and a sex addiction. I think I'd become quite numb and desensitized to pornography.

“… I would have spent upwards of 20 hours a day either eating, going to the gym, and the rest of that time was spent gaming, masturbating...

“It was the intensity, the duration, the quantity of it [pornography] that I was doing that was not good for my mental health. And that's what a lot of my rehabilitation focused on.”

The couple, who are now engaged, met through a mutual friend at a party and instantly 'connected'.

Alice was upfront about identifying as asexual. Credit: Channel 4


Although Alice was upfront about identifying as asexual, Harvey confessed that he experienced a 'sinking feeling' when she first mentioned it and still struggles to understand how Alice feels.

He shared: “My understanding was sexless. I'm not going to pretend, even five years on, I even understand it.

“There's sex positive, sex neutral, sex repulsed. For Alice, she is generally sex neutral or sex repulsed.”

The couple revealed they do 'sometimes' have sex but Alice admitted she’s 'effectively faking it' which is difficult for Harvey to understand.

Alice said: “We have sex but maybe not as much as other people. When we are doing the deed, I am effectively faking it.

“He knows that, and that's difficult for him to get his head around.”

At one point, the couple had even considered experimenting with non-monogamy but said they 'knew that wasn't going to work'.

The pair are set to get married next year against the odds. Credit: Channel 4


The pair are planning on walking up the aisle next year and no one is more surprised than Alice, who said: “I didn't think I'd ever get engaged, let alone to a recovering sex and porn addict.”

And marriage isn’t the only thing on the cards for the couple as Alice admitted that she hopes to become a mum one day.

“I've always wanted to have kids, I've always wanted to be a mother,” she shared. “I think that confuses a lot of people because there's a certain thing that has to happen to have kids.

“Harvey and I are so happy, so engaged, and getting married next year. My life has taken a turn for the better.”

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jason10mm

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So, for her sex is basically just a physical act, kinda like doing the dishes? I mean, no one ENJOYS doing the dishes, I'm dish neutral, maybe dish negative, but you gotta get 'em done, right? Seems like this guy could work out a transactional deal with this lady and call it good.
 

DeepEnigma

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So, for her sex is basically just a physical act, kinda like doing the dishes? I mean, no one ENJOYS doing the dishes, I'm dish neutral, maybe dish negative, but you gotta get 'em done, right? Seems like this guy could work out a transactional deal with this lady and call it good.
Like, include it into the chores? I think you're on to something here.

He may need to sprinkle some DHEA supplements into her food.

"No no, babe, I'll make breakfast, lunch, and dinner, even the snacks and your tea or coffee all day, everyday!"

I Got you, babe, I... got... you!"

I Gotchu I Got You GIF by thepanozzoteam
 

Mistake

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Whenever I hear “asexual” I have to roll my eyes, because 9/10 it’s a woman saying it, who would otherwise turn on like a light-switch once a hot guy walks by

But if that woman really hates sex, she should honestly find a sex therapist
 
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Ultimately her face seems kind of busted, but in that first pic (on the left, where she's by herself) her body doesn't seem half bad. No sane man (let alone a recovering sex addict!) isn't gonna want to tap that.

Good luck to these two 😂
 

Pejo

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You guys think this is a big deal for him, but when he gets tired of putting up with her shit and not getting any sex, the porn will always be there waiting for him, so it's still a net gain.
 

AJUMP23

Gold Member
Part of love, and their are multiple pieces to love, is physical intimacy. If the woman says she can experience emotional intimacy why would she not be able to experience physical as well.

I think one of the issues in relationships is the we emphasize and experience physical intimacy before we build emotional. If we build emotional connections first and commit to a monogamous relationship then we should have strong physical bonds as well as emotional.
 

jdforge

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Part of love, and their are multiple pieces to love, is physical intimacy. If the woman says she can experience emotional intimacy why would she not be able to experience physical as well.

I think one of the issues in relationships is the we emphasize and experience physical intimacy before we build emotional. If we build emotional connections first and commit to a monogamous relationship then we should have strong physical bonds as well as emotional.

Until dating apps can monetise fostering and nurturing emotional attachments to significant others, people will continue to hook up.
 

nush

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I look at the guy in that first picture and needing to tell us his lifestyle

“… I would have spent upwards of 20 hours a day either eating, going to the gym, and the rest of that time was spent gaming, masturbating...

was totally redundant. I bet in that list of daily activities "Going to the gym" actually means he has a gym membership and he walks past that gym on the way to Greggs.
 

AJUMP23

Gold Member
Until dating apps can monetise fostering and nurturing emotional attachments to significant others, people will continue to hook up.
People hooked up long before dating apps. But in the current generation dating apps do not facilitate meaningful relationships.
 

BadBurger

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A good friend married an asexual woman right out of college, they were 22. Marriage lasted about nine months. I wish the best of luck to him, but life is rough as hell when your woman won't at least take a shot in the mouth each day.
 

Ionian

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A good friend married an asexual woman right out of college, they were 22. Marriage lasted about nine months. I wish the best of luck to him, but life is rough as hell when your woman won't at least take a shot in the mouth each day.

What type of spirits? She's need at least a double whiskey to bang that if she's asexual.
 
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