iAmMaximus
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I've been dating my GF for about 1.5 years now and it's been difficult trying to maintain my independence in the relationship--moreso me than her. She's still a student and I work full-time so our schedule depends on her class schedule--which changes every quarter. Last quarter we met 3 time a week but now with the start of a new quarter, she has a lot more flexibility.
Last night I told her how I've been neglecting myself in this relationship in that I haven't been pursuing any hobbies or personal projects. All I think about is spending time with her. So when I told her this, she proposed that we should make a conscious effort to meet only 3 times a week--even though her schedule allows for more time together. I don't have a problem with having our own space but I do have a problem with us making a conscious effort to putting a number on how often we see each other in the week. Am I wrong for thinking this? I just think that finding this balance between my independence and this relationship is something I need to work on my own. I think that as long as I'm able to do that, it doesn't matter how often we see each other...right?
TL;DR - Told GF I've been neglecting myself in the relationship and thinks that we should meet 3 times a week and I don't like putting a number to it. Am I wrong for thinking this? As long as I'm working on finding the balance between my independence and the relationship, that's all that matters...right?
Last night I told her how I've been neglecting myself in this relationship in that I haven't been pursuing any hobbies or personal projects. All I think about is spending time with her. So when I told her this, she proposed that we should make a conscious effort to meet only 3 times a week--even though her schedule allows for more time together. I don't have a problem with having our own space but I do have a problem with us making a conscious effort to putting a number on how often we see each other in the week. Am I wrong for thinking this? I just think that finding this balance between my independence and this relationship is something I need to work on my own. I think that as long as I'm able to do that, it doesn't matter how often we see each other...right?
TL;DR - Told GF I've been neglecting myself in the relationship and thinks that we should meet 3 times a week and I don't like putting a number to it. Am I wrong for thinking this? As long as I'm working on finding the balance between my independence and the relationship, that's all that matters...right?