Uzumaki Goku
Junior Member
I don't feel like airing this on Facebook where he may see it and I'll be keeping names anonymous. But there's this guy and I, we've been friends for 10 years now. We hung out every now and then, we always took playful disses at each other. Just how we are. We liked talking about the same things, and we've generally gotten along well. He had his girlfriend that lived in the same area as me, so sometimes we hung out whenever he was in the area and she wasn't around or sometimes I'd go to his place.
Then late last year, they broke up. Shocker I'm sure, but they remain friends and that's cool of them, totally not my business but then he just stops hanging out with me. I figure it's because he lives so far away but I assume we're still going to be going to see movies. When Batman vs. Superman was coming out, I kept asking him through texts and Facebook when the plan was to go, I don't get any words, so the next day I start going to the theaters by myself when I call another mutual friend of mine to see if he wants to go, he tells me he's already seen the movie and saw it with our mutual friend the previous night and I'm absolutely livid that he didn't tell me so the entire movie I'm sitting there in a sour mood. I posted a video on YouTube where I reviewed the movie and I let my frustrations boil over. He sees the video and realizes he fucked up. I talk to his former girlfriend about a week later and she tells me that he's going to make it right to me and I figure "Okay, cool." .....to this day, he has never apologized for it. I think he just assumed I forgave him and I was willing to, but the fact that he never personally apologized still kinda burns.
So the months go by, I occasionally try to ask him "Hey, you doing anything this weekend?" Every time, I get an answer from him that he's doing something with friends. Okay. Fine. Totally your life. We meet once to watch Sony's E3 and I kinda bring up this little issue and he says (laughingly like he always does) "Good. Let's keep it that way." and I kinda raised the issue but he just says it'll be fine. Okay, fine. Nothing to worry about.
Months go by, he never calls me to ask me to hang out anymore, not even to chill. I only see him at occasional friends gathering so I don't really raise the issue to him about not hanging out to him because it's not the time and place for it. So these past two weekends, I figured "Hey, why not have a get together at my place since I'll be stuck in the house watching my brother." Both weekends he wasn't available something about a friends giving , I go "What? Am I not invited?" He tells me it's people I don't know. Sigh. Okay fine.
So this past week, I still haven't seen Dr. Strange and I figure "Long shot, but I'll ask him." I ask him if he and everyone else is available to go see the movie. He tells me he already saw it with people the previous night and I just sigh "Ok. Fine. Worth a shot." and I start trying to make it clear to him that I'm not happy that he's not hanging out with me anymore. I start pressuring the issue to him, I ask him "When are you coming to my house again? You haven't been here in a year." He goes lol who knows. I say "Yeah, how come you just stopped coming over." Yeah sucks I guess." being kinda snide and jokey about it which is how he is, but I was trying to make it clear that I miss hanging out with him and all our friends from up in his area and I want to start hanging out with them again. But it's hard to express that because y'know, it's hard for guys to talk about their feelings. I mean, it's like it wouldn't kill you to spend one day to hang out with me, but that seems like a novel concept to you.
So just today, I go on Facebook, I look at another mutual friends Facebook and I see this Friendsgiving, and several of our mutual friends ended up going and I just felt my heart sink. It's like I'm being cut completely out of his life, like I don't exist to him anymore and that really hurts. I wouldn't have been able to go anyway, but I still felt like I was lied to. (Sigh. This is why I don't go on Facebook much. It just depresses me.) I'm loyal to my friends, all I ask is that they are loyal to me in return. I..... I don't know.... I feel like if I raise this to him, he'll just laugh it off and not take it seriously. I think he didn't realize just how much this is really starting to bother me. I... I want to tell him, I want to hang out with him again, but it's just... so hard. We've always had this pick on each other relationship but there's always been a respect there, but man..... this is so hard... I suppose it's just hard for guys to talk about their feelings. I... I want to be part of their world again because I miss them but it seems they don't miss me.
I've been thinking about having a New Year's Eve party with them, but I haven't said anything yet because I just know they're gonna say they can't come. Everytime one of them throws something, everyone is around but when I throw something, nope, I just get rejections. ......so I'm just looking for advice. What should I do?
...loneliness is truly an ugly thing to feel.
Then late last year, they broke up. Shocker I'm sure, but they remain friends and that's cool of them, totally not my business but then he just stops hanging out with me. I figure it's because he lives so far away but I assume we're still going to be going to see movies. When Batman vs. Superman was coming out, I kept asking him through texts and Facebook when the plan was to go, I don't get any words, so the next day I start going to the theaters by myself when I call another mutual friend of mine to see if he wants to go, he tells me he's already seen the movie and saw it with our mutual friend the previous night and I'm absolutely livid that he didn't tell me so the entire movie I'm sitting there in a sour mood. I posted a video on YouTube where I reviewed the movie and I let my frustrations boil over. He sees the video and realizes he fucked up. I talk to his former girlfriend about a week later and she tells me that he's going to make it right to me and I figure "Okay, cool." .....to this day, he has never apologized for it. I think he just assumed I forgave him and I was willing to, but the fact that he never personally apologized still kinda burns.
So the months go by, I occasionally try to ask him "Hey, you doing anything this weekend?" Every time, I get an answer from him that he's doing something with friends. Okay. Fine. Totally your life. We meet once to watch Sony's E3 and I kinda bring up this little issue and he says (laughingly like he always does) "Good. Let's keep it that way." and I kinda raised the issue but he just says it'll be fine. Okay, fine. Nothing to worry about.
Months go by, he never calls me to ask me to hang out anymore, not even to chill. I only see him at occasional friends gathering so I don't really raise the issue to him about not hanging out to him because it's not the time and place for it. So these past two weekends, I figured "Hey, why not have a get together at my place since I'll be stuck in the house watching my brother." Both weekends he wasn't available something about a friends giving , I go "What? Am I not invited?" He tells me it's people I don't know. Sigh. Okay fine.
So this past week, I still haven't seen Dr. Strange and I figure "Long shot, but I'll ask him." I ask him if he and everyone else is available to go see the movie. He tells me he already saw it with people the previous night and I just sigh "Ok. Fine. Worth a shot." and I start trying to make it clear to him that I'm not happy that he's not hanging out with me anymore. I start pressuring the issue to him, I ask him "When are you coming to my house again? You haven't been here in a year." He goes lol who knows. I say "Yeah, how come you just stopped coming over." Yeah sucks I guess." being kinda snide and jokey about it which is how he is, but I was trying to make it clear that I miss hanging out with him and all our friends from up in his area and I want to start hanging out with them again. But it's hard to express that because y'know, it's hard for guys to talk about their feelings. I mean, it's like it wouldn't kill you to spend one day to hang out with me, but that seems like a novel concept to you.
So just today, I go on Facebook, I look at another mutual friends Facebook and I see this Friendsgiving, and several of our mutual friends ended up going and I just felt my heart sink. It's like I'm being cut completely out of his life, like I don't exist to him anymore and that really hurts. I wouldn't have been able to go anyway, but I still felt like I was lied to. (Sigh. This is why I don't go on Facebook much. It just depresses me.) I'm loyal to my friends, all I ask is that they are loyal to me in return. I..... I don't know.... I feel like if I raise this to him, he'll just laugh it off and not take it seriously. I think he didn't realize just how much this is really starting to bother me. I... I want to tell him, I want to hang out with him again, but it's just... so hard. We've always had this pick on each other relationship but there's always been a respect there, but man..... this is so hard... I suppose it's just hard for guys to talk about their feelings. I... I want to be part of their world again because I miss them but it seems they don't miss me.
I've been thinking about having a New Year's Eve party with them, but I haven't said anything yet because I just know they're gonna say they can't come. Everytime one of them throws something, everyone is around but when I throw something, nope, I just get rejections. ......so I'm just looking for advice. What should I do?
...loneliness is truly an ugly thing to feel.