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What is good sex like?

NecrosaroIII

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I've never really had a positive sexual experience. My best encounter was just okay. A lot of shameful experiences, a lot of sad experiences. Never any that I feel particularly positive about.

Today is the third anniversary of the last time I had sex. I've given up on it at this point and just help myself since I don't feel judged when I do it. But sometimes I wonder. What's it like for those that are able to have positive experiences?
 

daveonezero

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this thread is gonna get bad but if you really want to figure this out start seeing a counselor or therapist.

Read a book called Unwanted.

Realize the world and its sexual expression are super unhealthy.
 

T8SC

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It's a minefield of dead weights who just lay there and think that's all they have to do.

Once you find a good one, keep her and make it your goal in life to destroy her yoni.


Edit: I like how "Yoni" is now the default word. Thanks Peggies Peggies it's nicer than minge. :messenger_tears_of_joy:
 
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cormack12

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Except more bruises and nosebleeds
 

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I've never really had a positive sexual experience. My best encounter was just okay. A lot of shameful experiences, a lot of sad experiences. Never any that I feel particularly positive about.

Today is the third anniversary of the last time I had sex. I've given up on it at this point and just help myself since I don't feel judged when I do it. But sometimes I wonder. What's it like for those that are able to have positive experiences?
Kind of reminds me of me since most of the times I've had sex in the past they were just meh, take it or leave it.
When you find the right person it's fucking fireworks.
My advice would be; you haven't found the right person yet.
 

Con-Z-epT

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It is a sense of satisfaction that goes beyond the physical part and also gives you a feeling of psychological relive. This will usually occur in a relationship where you can trust your partner. It took me at least 26 years of my life to have really good sex so don't give up.
 
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It's about having fun. There is too much pressure when you're younger to be competitive and be a beast. That comes with experience. A good cocksucking experience is wonderful but sometimes it sucks (bad pun). Don't aim for the hot girls, aim for the chubby one who knows how to eat well and has a lowish self esteem, then you can build your own as well.
 

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Depends if you're there just to have a good time yourself, or give someone your best and get their best in return with emotions involved. It can be great both ways if it's honest but a very different experience altogether.
 
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I've had girls who thought they had to act like whaling pornstars and girls who you needed to take a pulse to see if they where still alive, ive hammered away only to leap up in agony with a massive cramp or blew the load too quickly, we all start off fucking clueless and useless but we keep plugging away learning from experience and the best advice I can give is just fucking communicate and have a laugh, it doesn't need to be super serious all the time and when you get with the right partner and you are both super comfortable with each other it's a fucking blast and don't ask her to stick her finger up your arse it just feels fucking wierd and your brain keeps telling you need to take a dump
 
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Well, then the physical satisfaction part will probably be easier for you but you still need the emotional aspect too.

When you truly have great sex it will feel like another level of connection. There has to be some love or deep care with the person and every being of yourself will feel happy and satisfied afterward. Usually, lots of cuddling in bed comes after.

EDIT: I just read that you are married so that complicates things. Do you truly love this woman? If so, then y'all really need to sit down and discover what turns you both on. Your likes and dislikes. Work on that with the expectation that y'all are both learning and don't expect immediate satisfaction during the learning process. Other than that, it might be worth seeing a sex therapist.
 
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MastAndo

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Like warm apple pie.

It's pretty great, though kind of hard to describe. You can have good sex with a rando, but personally, I don't feel it can ever truly be great unless you're comfortable and have a certain level of romantic feelings for the other person (and know they have them for you). I'm sad to admit, I've only experienced this with a small percentage of the girls I've been with, and haven't for several years.

I've given up on romantic love so my days of sex like that are probably behind me, and now that I'm getting older and grosser by the day, my hookups are lacking in quality. I'm no chemist, but too many beers, a condom, plus a girl you're barely attracted to is not a formula for great sex, that's for sure.
 
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p_xavier

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Like warm apple pie.

It's pretty great, though kind of hard to describe. You can have good sex with a rando, but personally, I don't feel it can ever truly be great unless you're comfortable and have a certain level of romantic feelings for the other person (and know they have them for you). I'm sad to admit, I've only experienced this with a small percentage of the girls I've been with, and haven't for several years.

I've given up on romantic love so my days of sex like that are probably behind me, and now that I'm getting older and grosser by the day, my hookups are lacking in quality. I'm no chemist, but too many beers, a condom, plus a girl you're barely attracted to is not a formula for great sex, that's for sure.
The people who say to have the best sex are in their sixties.
 

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Good sex should be where both you and your partner climax. If you finish first and don't finish off your partner, or if you don't finish and they do, then that is shit sex.

For amazing sex, try the tantric experience. Nothing better than dead staring into your partner's eyes and both of you screaming into each others faces like wild animals as you both reach a mind-blowing climax.

Sometimes, I even like primitive, animalistic raw sex, but that isn't for everyone and you need to do this with somebody you trust.
 

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I worked in college bars for years and had some great hookups. But even then it starts to get old. I had several encounters where everything "clicked" and was just euphoric, but I mean even then it just starts to get old. For me, it's more about finding the right person first, and if the sex is at least decent, that's a better starting point. In my 20s, I would have had a much different opinion.
 
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Watching porn can make real sex seem "Meh". Porn is not realistic and most women wont have sex like a porn star. Our culture, from porn to movies and tv shows, has been detrimental to all of our sex lives, man and woman.

My advice? Stop watching porn and don't masterbate very much. Talk to your partner about what he/she likes and then do those things. They will often reciprocate your desires so long as they aren't crazy or unrealistic.
 
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Jeff Spicoli

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I don't know, sex and horniness are a real mistery.
Every time Is different.
But in my case imagination Is required to make things funnier.
Your woman needs fun too, before and after sex.
 

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I've never really had a positive sexual experience. My best encounter was just okay. A lot of shameful experiences, a lot of sad experiences. Never any that I feel particularly positive about.

Today is the third anniversary of the last time I had sex. I've given up on it at this point and just help myself since I don't feel judged when I do it. But sometimes I wonder. What's it like for those that are able to have positive experiences?

Maybe it's nice to write a positive story here, since I have one to tell. I'm 42, and for the longest time I was, like you, pretty useless with women, had a few sexual encounters but like you a lot of painful disappointments and mismatches. Then all of the sudden last year I found a girl on bumble who's really kind and sweet and also quite hot IMHO and so for the first time in my life, I've been having good sex on a regular basis. It's really nice, we start out by cuddling and kissing on the couch or in the kitchen or wherever really, and generally things heat up gradually to where we start undressing one another. She likes it if I carry her to the bedroom, so I oblige, and there we have sex for say 30-45 minutes or so, till one of us comes. Usually it goes in waves kind of, becoming fast and intense, and then slowing down again to the point where we'll just be talking or teasing while I'm inside her. I haven't actually managed to time it quite so that we come together (sometimes she will actually come first, which is quite flattering in a way) but because we are both chill and communicative about it we'll just finish the other or chill and cuddle for a while before we go for round 2.

Some people will probably categorize this as "just OK" sex, but to the both of us it feels great and we are both satisfied and happy when it's over.

I know dating can be tough as shit and extremely depressing, so I would never judge you for giving up for a while, I've been there. I would never have expected this to happen to me this late in life, but it did!
 
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It's a minefield of dead weights who just lay there and think that's all they have to do.

They are known as Pillow Princesses. The hotter the woman is the higher chance the has of being one, most disappointing. I think it's because the men they have been with have kissed their ass and told them they were amazing regardless. I've finished up with those women and the only good thing I could say about the experience was "Well, at least she was really fit".

B/C class looks and big girls (Not landwales) give the most consistent good sex.
 

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They are known as Pillow Princesses. The hotter the woman is the higher chance the has of being one, most disappointing. I think it's because the men they have been with have kissed their ass and told them they were amazing regardless. I've finished up with those women and the only good thing I could say about the experience was "Well, at least she was really fit".

B/C class looks and big girls (Not landwales) give the most consistent good sex.

 

NecrosaroIII

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N NecrosaroIII what's your health like? the more in shape you are the better sex feels

I find it hard to believe you NEVER had good sex. Maybe you just forgot what it's like?

Fairly good health. Mid thirties. Fairly fit and in good enough, with regular exercise. However, I've always suffered from ED, which is where the majority of my problems come from. I've tried medication and what not and it didn't help.