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Prejudice around height and it's seeming acceptance among society.

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TimeEffect

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lightskintwin said:
And I feel the same for others with any other physical characteristic wallowing in self pity.

As a Black man, I don't get other Black men whining about women not wanting to date them because they're Black. There are millions of women that will, so quit wasting your time whining about the one's that wont.

In terms of it being something still socially acceptable to mock, well then yeah... that's definitely an issue... however I just don't think you're going to get much sympathy for it.
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Speaking of skin colour, I can't how many times a conversation stopped cold when I mentioned my ethnicity. Some people assume I'm mixed, but I can feel the immediate change when I tell them what I am.
 
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eizarus

Banned
lightskintwin said:
Does that happen? Talk about awkward. LOL

I can see a woman turn down your advances, but let you know it's due to your skin color?
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Unfortunately it does.

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Crayon

Crayon

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I'm a bit of a short but I was never very sensitive about it. In fact it took me too long to realize that it was the reason for some rejections. It took having a gf who was very outspoken about hating my shortness for me to get it. I still don't trip though.
 
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Glass Rebel

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TimeEffect said:
Speaking of skin colour, I can't how many times a conversation stopped cold when I mentioned my ethnicity. Some people assume I'm mixed, but I can feel the immediate change when I tell them what I am.
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When people compliment you because you look "exotic" but then find out you're the wrong "exotic".
 
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ultratruman

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As a tall person a bit insecure of his height, I often feel this way too. People will come up to me and say ' what's the weather like up there? ' etc. They wouldn't say stuff like that to a short person, so why is it OK when someone is tall?
 
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Elfotografoalocado

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I'm 1,73m (5'8" methinks) and it came up when I was in primary/middle school, as did my chubbiness back then, and many other things since I was a fairly grave victim of bullying. Once I moved around in high school and now in uni it hasn't been a problem at all. Have done alright in dating, have a great GF now... But I am fit now, have an attractive face and an attractive voice.
5 more cm wouldn't hurt, mind you.
 
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Hoo-doo

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I'm 5'11 which is the average over here. But I still feel like many people tower over me.
All my girlfriends so far have been shorter women though, which I prefer.

My roommate is 5'4 and it's a huge issue for him and he feels super insecure about it.
It's really getting dealt a shit hand in life. Especially when you live in the country with the tallest people in the world.
 
Shortt Sirket

Shortt Sirket

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Measley said:
I'm between 5'10 and 5'11. Pretty sure that's average. My wife is 5'3.

Gotta be rough being a short guy.
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It is not always easy. Being a mid 30s guy who is 5'4 makes things interesting sometimes. I have also been told to my face, and behind my back, many times that my height is a reason a girl was not interested.

My wife is 5'10 tho.
 
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LProtag

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I'm short, and heightism is obviously a thing and it sucks.

But it's not something I constantly have to think about all the time, so it's not a huge deal. It is kinda rubbish that it's socially acceptable to exclude people based on their height, but in the end what are you going to do?

It doesn't have huge adverse effects on my life (besides some anxiety while dating) so it's easier to just move on.
 
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Infinite

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lightskintwin said:
Woah.

Like I've turned down plenty of women's advances, but I would never let them know it was because they were fat or not attractive enough, or because a specific body part was too small, etc... LOL

That's just rude.

So how did it happen? I need details.
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Well a friend of mine (black) was seeing this girl (white) and the parents of the girl found out they were together and wanted it to stop happening because they didn't want her to be dating a black person is the long story short. she cut it off and told him the reason 😕

Also I know men bold enough to straight up tell women that they won't be dating them cause they too fat.
 
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Kotetsu534

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I'm short (5'8''). At my work I've had customers remark to me that "they're glad their sons grew to be tall" or, in one case, outright ask me "it's just so much better for a man to be tall, don't you think?" Since I also look young for my age I'm also sometimes asked if I'm still growing. It hurts a bit, but whatever, nothing I can do 'bout it.
 
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DrunkShogun

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Girl ain't worth my time if height is so important to her. I'm about the same size as op but haven't had this issue myself. But I am bald so I have my own kryptonite for some women. But some woman prefer bald so it works out somewhat.
 
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Afrocious

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i thank the tall gods that i am tall

if i weren't tall, i'd have to figure out how to develop an interesting personality. i dodged a genetic bullet there
 
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lightskintwin

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Infinite said:
Well a friend of mine (black) was seeing this girl (white) and the parents of the girl found out they were together and wanted it to stop happening because they didn't want her to be dating a black person is the long story short. she cut it off and told him the reason 😕

Also I know men bold enough to straight up tell women that they won't be dating them cause they too fat.
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C'mon that's completely different. The girl was into him regardless of skin color. It was a parental issue.
 
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Sho_Nuff82

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Syder said:
lol no thanks.
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Actually, Bumble is the place to be for all the classy women these days. Way less fake profiles as well. People with stereotypical good looks (Tall, fit, broad shoulders, symmetrical face, nice clothes, nice hair) will get more attention consistently in these settings (and in pickup bars). It's always best to focus on your positive traits instead of dwelling on your negatives.

As has been said, height is just another of many shallow characteristics (like your weight, your clothes, your shoes, your haircut, your glasses, your teeth, your skin/hair/eye color, your face in general, your butt, your arms, your abs, your chest) that people are going to immediately judge you on in casual meeting grounds and online dating. People are going to scrub you on first sight for not immediately checking one of those boxes - just get over it, and focus on whomever is left. The process of elimination is only going to get more granular from there, as girls/guys will further eliminate you based on religion, school, job, wealth, weekend activities, pop culture interests, pets, and sports teams. If it's any consolation, the really shallow people end up 37, unmarried, with a profile that reads like "only interested in 6'5 crossfit ivy-league MDs with a boat, home, and green eyes. No Yankees fans or cat owners."
 
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aett

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I'm 6'1 and I used to wish I was taller because both my brothers as well as my dad are taller than me. Now I'm okay with it, because while I'm taller than most people, I'm not tall enough to ever deal with jokes about my height or anything like that.

...Although, there was a time about thirteen years ago when a girl agreed to go out with me and I found out that she only said yes because she lived in a house with a bunch of other college girls who were all too short to change their light bulbs. (And too cheap to buy a ladder.)
 
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lightskintwin

Banned
Infinite said:
I didn't realize you were posing a different scenario? I was responding to you saying you don't understand why a black wouldn't just keep it moving.
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Nah, I thought you meant a scenario where somebody of a different skin color was hitting it off with somebody of another different skin color and as soon as they try to make their move.... they tell them, "Sorry, wrong skin color". LOL
 
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Syder

Member
Sho_Nuff82 said:
Actually, Bumble is the place to be for all the classy women these days. Way less fake profiles as well. People with stereotypical good looks (Tall, fit, broad shoulders, symmetrical face, nice clothes, nice hair) will get more attention consistently in these settings (and in pickup bars). It's always best to focus on your positive traits instead of dwelling on your negatives.

As has been said, height is just another of many shallow characteristics (like your weight, your clothes, your shoes, your haircut, your glasses, your teeth, your skin/hair/eye color, your face in general, your butt, your arms, your abs, your chest) that people are going to immediately judge you on in casual meeting grounds and online dating. People are going to scrub you on first sight for not immediately checking one of those boxes - just get over it, and focus on whomever is left. The process of elimination is only going to get more granular from there, as girls/guys will further eliminate you based on religion, school, job, wealth, weekend activities, pop culture interests, pets, and sports teams. If it's any consolation, the really shallow people end up 37, unmarried, with a profile that reads like "only interested in 6'5 crossfit ivy-league MDs with a boat, home, and green eyes. No Yankees fans or cat owners."
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I've got nothing against people who use dating sites/apps but the shallow nature of it has always kept me away, I think it brings out the worst in people, but if people have good experiences with it then more power to them.

Also, I've never dated a girl without first being friends with them. Going from 0 to 60 just isn't my style; I've done perfectly well in dating so far in my life without technology and I'm fine with it staying that way.
 
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freethoughtbubble

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Eh, I wouldn't call it prejudice. It's preference. All humans have them. Is it shallow? Yes, arguably. But plenty of guys have "no fat chicks" or "no flat chest/ass" preferences and are equally shitty about them (worse, in most cases).

I'm 5'7" btw, so I get it. My girlfriend's actually like 5'6" and taller than me in heels. She says she doesn't mind, lol.
 
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TickleMeElbow

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Speaking of height, a lot of dudes lie or straight up don't even know their actual height. I'm 5'10" barefoot (yes I've been measured, accurately), and several times both men and women have told me I have to be "around 6 foot". With dudes it's mostly "nah I'm 5'10" so you're taller"....when he's clearly shorter than me. If he's taller it's like "nah, you have to be 6' because I'm 6'2". I'm looking at them like "I know my fucking height dude stop lying" lol.

With women it's usually "you're only 5'10"? You look taller". Like yeah dudes have been lying to you about their height your whole life lol.
 
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Puck Beaverton

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TickleMeElbow said:
Speaking of height, a lot of dudes lie or straight up don't even know their actual height. I'm 5'10" barefoot (yes I've been measured, accurately), and several times both men and women have told me I have to be "around 6 foot". With dudes it's mostly "nah I'm 5'10" so you're taller"....when he's clearly shorter than me. If he's taller it's like "nah, you have to be 6' because I'm 6'2". I'm looking at them like "I know my fucking height dude stop lying" lol.

With women it's usually "you're only 5'10"? You look taller". Like yeah dudes have been lying to you about their height your whole life lol.
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this is true

people call me tall and I don't see it
 
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