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Prejudice around height and it's seeming acceptance among society.

Forceatowulf

G***n S**n*bi
The only thing that annoys me about heightism is how guys who are of average height or slightly taller are still considered short.

Like, what the fuck? So even when you're taller than most you still hold an L. What kind of rigged shit is that.
 
Oh, and:

Watch in 20 years when your calling dudes manlets and your children are looking at you like you used a gay slur

Both 6+, and crack on their mom. Problem is, she's worst than the lot of us, and relishes in embarrassing fools..😁

It's almost like the short gene and the thin skin gene get passed along with each other.

Totally kidding

Trump is the biggest thin skinned fuck on the planet. Height has exactly 0 to do with it lol..
 
The only thing that annoys me about heightism is how guys who are of average height or slightly taller are still considered short.

Like, what the fuck? What kind of rigged shit is that.
I don't know that they're considered "short" they're just considered "average", I guess, and some people prefer to date above average, is all.
It's almost like the short gene and the thin skin gene get passed along with each other.

Totally kidding
:p I'm not phased by the thread or the (obvious) joke comments in it, I just thought some people were being mean to others, though that's also probably in jest.
 
If everyone walked around naked, the guys with tiny penises (to the point where they probably could not penetrate) would certainly be ignored.

People can be disregarded immediately for their height, because it is obvious to everyone.

So would bald, fat, hairy, scarred, odd birth marks, stretch marks, etc. At the end of the day people are going to have their standards. We all have standards whether they be someone who's educated, financially savvy, fit, gamer, nerd, fashionable, social, etc. Yes, it sucks someone may not want to date you because of your height but you gotta ask then, "why would I want to date this person?" There are plenty of fish out there, many of whom will gladly date a person of any height because a lot of people are not shallow. People are not entitled to date or being with anyone, we all have our preferences whether they be questionable or not. Stop trying to engage folks who clearly don't want none of it. You'll be happier for it.
 

cordy

Banned
Honestly speaking, if you're short and you've learned to deal with height comments you've probably got pretty thick skin compared to a great amount who are average or even taller. You build a defense to it. Idk any adult who's short and still gets hurt by short comments.
 

Mahonay

Banned
i'm 5'6". It's fine.

I rarely get short comments anymore. I'm usually the one to say something about my height first. I think just having confidence makes a difference.

Current long time girlfriend is taller than me.
 

Paasei

Member
6'6" here. Never really think about my height or anyone else's. Seems like something that's natural.
Double floored trains here are a pain if I am forced to take the stairs down or up.

Quite a lot of people here are decently tall.
 
They're always like this. GAF has a height thread every couple of months it seems, and they're like fire to the 6'+ moths who can't wait to post how much they're loving life. Men are cruel, indeed~
Haha, I meant mostly because of jabs between posters, but it's fine, it seems it's mainly joke posts.
 

B.O.O.M

Member
I somewhat lucked out in this area with a height of 6' 1". As for dating considerations, I'm ok with anyone north of 5 ft. That's just preference.
 
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I can't really say I share your pain since I'm 6ft 6in but I do sympathize. Honestly though, I don't know what women see in us tall guys. I feel like a regular dude most of the time and I don't really feel my height gives me any real advantage outside of a basketball court. I get some women drooling over my height but I don't feel like it's the same as when a woman has big boobs or a perfectly booty and has guys drooling all over her. I think the trick is just to find a woman much shorter than you are and you'll always be a tall giant in her eyes.
 
5'7" here (170cm if your country has never been to the moon). I've heard that I'm short. But it never really bothers me. Generally people only start attacking my height when they've got nothing left and I think I'm a pretty likable person so I don't usually hear it.
 
as a 5'9" woman i have to say that dating has been very similar for me when it comes to dudes lol. a lot of "i'm too tall" or insecure feelings if i wear heels and i'm over 6ft. also dudes i'm not even interested in telling me that i'm too tall because i guess they needed to let me know!

Lol. Tinder is like a stand-off between women who are too tall for most insecure men and men who are too short for most insecure women.
 

Shredderi

Member
I am somewhere between 5'8 to 5'9 so about average, maybe slightly below. I don't think it has ever affected me considerably in life, not more than ethnicity has. And even then, I'm a white, straight male so...



Here's another thought experiment.

Imagine yourself with a brain.

Now write a post.

LOL fuck yea.
 
I'm 6'2 and I've met many girls who've said "I could never date a short guy" or "a guy smaller than me" I just can't get over how that's kind of a dick thing to say, of course it doesn't offend me personally but it still makes me realise how low people can be about shit.

It's just a dick thing to say to people or about people.
 

SRG01

Member
I'm saying tho. Where the tall women at!!???

I've dated a few women much taller than me -- 6'+ versus 5'6" -- and they've remarked at how some men don't want to date taller women because it makes them feel less masculine or something.
 

norm9

Member
I've dated a few women much taller than me -- 6'+ versus 5'6" -- and they've remarked at how some men don't want to date taller women because it makes them feel less masculine or something.

They need to stop putting 6'0" and up only on their profiles. Might help.
 
I'm not sure that this can be considered prejudice, though. Aren't those just physical preferences for partners? People have the right to "filter" potential partners based on whatever preferences they have.

Absolutely. People are allowed to be attracted to what they're attracted to.

The problem is the double standard. If someone is picky about their SO's height, they can't complain that others are picky about weight.
 

SRG01

Member
They need to stop putting 6'0" and up only on their profiles. Might help.

I... think you read my post backwards.

They were perfectly okay with dating shorter men, but many men didn't want to date them because they were much taller.
 

KingV

Member
i'm 5'6". It's fine.

I rarely get short comments anymore. I'm usually the one to say something about my height first. I think just having confidence makes a difference.

Current long time girlfriend is taller than me.

I'm about the same and my wife is taller than me too (and somewhat tall for a woman in general).

I actually see tallish women with short guys pretty often. I think short guys are less judgmental about tall women because they are used to being as short or a bit shorter than chicks, and don't think much of it one way or the other.

The only place where I've REALLY noticed heightism is online. Particularly in online dating. If you are a short guy, I wouldn't bother with it. You'll do better in person.
 
They're always like this. GAF has a height thread every couple of months it seems, and they're like fire to the 6'+ moths who can't wait to post how much they're loving life. Men are cruel, indeed~

Actually, considering that prejudice towards height is definitely a thing in Western countries towards positions of power, education, career, and eventual income (don't ask me about the source, I remember seeing that last one a while back, but I'm not going to look that up just for one post), saying that you're 6''+ is basically just admitting to nepotism.

Speaking of nepotism, the "worst president the US had" was put forward only because of his height. For now, that refers to Warden Harding. A few months for now -or years.. - that will be Donald J. Trump, and the description will stay the same.
The "tall" in this case being 6" (183 cm) and 6"2 (188 cm) respectively. So you know, they're not actually tall (modern average male in the US is 178cm, 183cm in the Netherlands, which is the highest average globally), but the fact that people need to sell themselves as such says a lot.


A funny example of this happens in Judge Dredd (I wrote Judge Dress there for a moment... kinda want to see that now), the Stallone 1995 version, where he and Rico get their height called out near the finale and they're both said to be 2 meters tall. In reality, Stallone and his co-actor Armand Assante (Rico) are 1m77 and 1m78 respectively.
But they still gotta sell them as such.

I personally don't see many advantages to being taller than about 1m75 other than social ladder stuff. Worse, on camera you can actually tell because of the distorted body proportions that happens when passing beyond that level, as seen in the current running (to cancellation) TV show The Mist, where every goddamn actor has that gauntly 'too tall for the love of the camera' sense to them, as if the casting director had a fetish to fulfill.
Finally, a topic where I can randomly throw in that 'why would you notice that' observation. :p
But seriously, it's really noticeable, because they're not compensating for others who aren't that tall, which otherwise hides that gaunt aspect. Once you see it, it starts to get... weird.

Last one: an example of a camera man not being prepared for someone being taller than everybody else happens in Last Action Hero, when Charles Dance enters Schwarzenegger's character's house and his head is clipped off by the frame, leading to a very quick 'oh shit' camera move up to give him the proper headroom in the frame. Charles Dance is 1m95. It's an adorable mistake that made its way into the movie, and I feel that makes it better somehow. Adds to the 'it's a movie!' theme.
 

Metroxed

Member
This thread is the perfect example and it completely proves OP's point.

Mockery against short men is apparently not only funny, but also encouraged.

Manlet is a derogatory term, but everyone around here is using it like it's nothing.
 

norm9

Member
I... think you read my post backwards.

They were perfectly okay with dating shorter men, but many men didn't want to date them because they were much taller.

Yes, I did read that wrong. My mind went back to a tall female friend of mine in her dating days that was not cool with people shorter than her.
 

D4Danger

Unconfirmed Member
They're always like this. GAF has a height thread every couple of months it seems, and they're like fire to the 6'+ moths who can't wait to post how much they're loving life. Men are cruel, indeed~

it's only to cover up the crushing disappointment of existing in a world that wasn't designed for people over 6'.
 
No? The man I respect the most in my life, my mentor, my teacher had stunted growth because of something that happened (No idea what) when he was being born and he is a tiny little man. Below 5 feet. He's the best teacher I've ever had, and he just had a baby with one of the hottest redheads I've ever seen.

I have small friends. I have tall friends. I have a tall lady friend. Height doesn't matter. What the fuck lol?

I knew this was coming, I should have addressed it. There are short people that are easily respected. I know. That's not part of this. I'm talking about taking someone who is already tall, down a few notches. Not extremely focused, disciplined, incredibly inspirational people. Just take your average tall guy.

Try this one. Instead of thinking about people you know, try any given highschool douchey jock. Take that guy, cut him down two feet. He's instantly put into another social club, a funny guy, or a side kick.

I'm short, by the way and my father who I greatly respect is also short. But if I take my friend who is a hot goth guy in a band and make him remarkably short, I don't think he'd have the fandom he does.. And another friend of mine who quickly moved up the retail chain to become a district manager. He would be seen differently, personality and all, and you know it. That's my point.

Alternatively take someone who is shorter and give him an extra foot. I guarantee you he's going to get more instinctive respect from men and women alike. It's instinctual which is why it's quite a rare pairing for short men to be with taller women. A short person has to be extraordinary in the traits you mention to overcome the stigma.


Notable shortness and baldness are probably the two worst physical challenges a person can face (outside of race obviously [edit: also disease, loss of limb, etc])
 
The problem is the double standard. If someone is picky about their SO's height, they can't complain that others are picky about weight.
Sure, all double standards are shitty and people should totally be called out on them, or at least the double standard should be pointed out so that we as individuals realize whether we're doing it and start working towards not doing it anymore. Kind of like that "when his height starts with 5'" twitter capture, where she got called out on it (though I don't know if that's a real picture).

Again this is coming from a guy that's 5'2" - shorter than most teenagers in America: if you're in the dating scene and you see a profile of a person that has something like "must be 6'+ to match", are you going to go out of your way to call that person out on it? Just let it slide. It's not a personal thing, it's just their preference. It's ok to point out the double standard when someone is posting on Twitter or a public forum or what have you, but to expect someone on a dating site to "match" or continue to have a conversation with you when it's clear that person is looking for specific physical traits seems like a bit of entitlement to me. "I'm a great person, give me a chance to prove it!"
I actually see tallish women with short guys pretty often. I think short guys are less judgmental about tall women because they are used to being as short or a bit shorter than chicks, and don't think much of it one way or the other.
I can tell you this is absolutely the case for me. I like tall women, and don't mind at all about the height difference. Hell, most women I've dated have been taller than me and obviously they didn't care (otherwise they wouldn't have dated me, duh). I don't even mind if they use high heels. This is who I am and there's nothing I can do about it. Why be bothered by it?
 
I knew this was coming, I should have addressed it. There are short people that are easily respected. I know. That's not part of this. I'm talking about taking someone who is already tall, down a few notches. Not extremely focused, disciplined, incredibly inspirational people. Just take your average tall guy.

Try this one. Instead of thinking about people you know, try any given highschool douchey jock. Take that guy, cut him down two feet. He's instantly put into another social club, a funny guy, or a side kick.

I'm short, by the way and my father who I greatly respect is also short. But if I take my friend who is a hot goth guy in a band and make him remarkably short, I don't think he'd have the fandom he does.. And another friend of mine who quickly moved up the retail chain to become a district manager. He would be seen differently, personality and all, and you know it. That's my point.

Alternatively take someone who is shorter and give him an extra foot. I guarantee you he's going to get more instinctive respect from men and women alike. It's instinctual which is why it's quite rare. A short person has to be extraordinary in the traits you mention to overcome the stigma.


Notable shortness and baldness are probably the two worst physical challenges a person can face (outside of race obviously).

In the scenario you're giving here, I think it's as much to do with that persons insecurity from losing height or confidence from gaining it than it is about other people losing or gaining respect for them. If the Jock still had the confidence to hang with the same crowd or the short person still acts in an insular manner, a foot of height isn't going to make much difference.
 
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