Hey all. Curious to get some thoughts on this topic that as it has become relevant to my family in recent years. To cut to the chase, we welcomed a now 10 year old girl into our family via foreign adoption a few years back, and she has adjusted to her new life amazingly well. Prior to her adoption, we were made aware that she had a 5 Alpha Reductase Deficiency, which is a genetic condition that rendered her with ambiguous genitalia and no sexual organs. When she was born, the doctors in her country decided that she would be a girl, and removed her half-developed testes in an early surgery. (she is XY)
Today, my mom sat her down and explained everything, diagrams and all, figuring that transparency and informing her early would be the best way to approach this. She seemingly understood and absorbed all of this information, recognizing that she felt like a boy on the inside, even though she previously lacked the conceptual framework to even think through something like this. It is clear that she feels like and wants to be a boy. However, as she is very socially cognizant and aware, she is apprehensive as to how her friends and peers would react, along with general uncertainty with the whole situation.
So, I guess I am asking if anybody out there has experienced themselves personally or has known about someone who has gone through a gender transition at a young age. What would be the best ways to "initiate" something like this especially as it is pertains to someone who will not be receiving testosterone for a few years still? How do other kids typically react to one of their peers going through such a change? Is making the transition earlier better than later? (i.e. middle or high school?) I'm not sure even if I have a distinct question, but am mostly just curious to hear from other people as to what perspectives they might have on something like this. We want what is best for her and are ready to fully support her, but are certainly entering uncharted waters for our family.
Today, my mom sat her down and explained everything, diagrams and all, figuring that transparency and informing her early would be the best way to approach this. She seemingly understood and absorbed all of this information, recognizing that she felt like a boy on the inside, even though she previously lacked the conceptual framework to even think through something like this. It is clear that she feels like and wants to be a boy. However, as she is very socially cognizant and aware, she is apprehensive as to how her friends and peers would react, along with general uncertainty with the whole situation.
So, I guess I am asking if anybody out there has experienced themselves personally or has known about someone who has gone through a gender transition at a young age. What would be the best ways to "initiate" something like this especially as it is pertains to someone who will not be receiving testosterone for a few years still? How do other kids typically react to one of their peers going through such a change? Is making the transition earlier better than later? (i.e. middle or high school?) I'm not sure even if I have a distinct question, but am mostly just curious to hear from other people as to what perspectives they might have on something like this. We want what is best for her and are ready to fully support her, but are certainly entering uncharted waters for our family.