Controversial opinion ahead:
This might be an oversimplification of things but I think the perceptions of sexualization of men and women in video games are perceived differently due to one key factor. Sadly, I believe that factor might simply be jealousy.
Its far more commonplace for a woman to get jealous of another woman's body or have some sort of body-image issues. So of course women and people who claim to be more sensitive to women's issues will take offense to anything that may be 'harmful' to their self-image despite the fact that we tend to have sexy male characters too. This, of course, is explained away as 'male-power fantasy' (as laughable as that is.)
Its not like men don't have these issues either but to a much lesser degree, I honestly feel this has to do with the female hug-box that is feminism. I'll say it plainly; I am anti-feminist. I am not anti-fairness, simply anti-feminism because I don't believe that feminism promotes fairness between the sexes despite what the dictionary definition says.
I really hate that feminism seemingly encourages people to sit back and complain about problems rather than going out and fixing them. If every single person who had a major problem with the way female characters are designed and portrayed got together to fund and/or create games that promote positive female leads/characters/depictions rather than just armcharing it, we'd see something happen. If the market decides this is what is wanted, the sales will happen and that'll open even more doors.
Unfortunately, for the "business" of third wave feminism to stay aloat, it must convince us that women are in fact oppressed and simply do not have the agency to go out there and create. I don't buy into that. There's another thread on the subject and clearly some people do, but I actually have a bit more respect for women than to think that they can't get by in the industry as it stands now. People just have to try and we don't need things like feminism coddling them.
There are several huge problems with this posts, but I'm going to try to outline some of them.
Feminism strives for equality, because right now the balance shifts toward men. Men have it easier, are more catered for, hold WAY more power and are less discriminated against that women in almost every single current society in the world. It's much worse in most developing countries, but even first-world countries have it quite bad.
Think of it as a balancing scale, or a rope. If there is an unbalance, the way to correct it is pull from the other way. That's what feminism tries to do: equalize the balance by making things easier for women. This is why it's often perceived to be about female domination. It's not; it's about egalitarism, from the point of view that CURRENTLY, society is stacked against women. You can discuss whether this is the case or not (although, frankly, IMHO there's plenty of evidence to support it) but let's all understand that's the purpose and the origin of the name of feminism; to equalize things by promoting women rights, not to unbalance towards women.
Your point about "feminists should shut up and act" is ridiculous; exposing a problem IS acting, one of the key actions in fact. Seems to me you are in fact aware of this and what you are is afraid more people will realize these problems and side with them against "anti-feminists" like you; otherwise, why would you care?
As for the "jealousy thing", I don't even know where to start... You seem to have a bit of a stone-age conception of the female psyche, and from your post I feel that a sympathy exercise might be asking too much, but can you imagine living in a society where you're constantly bombarded with imagery with the subtle (or not so subtle) message that all that matters about you is your body? Then having it reinforced by any member of the opposite sex (and most of your own, unfortunately) you meet? Have a good look at advertising, movies, series or pretty much any kind of media and you might realize what I mean.
Entirely different and it isn't even the design that one might consider sexist.
Remove the text and you've got something that isn't remotely sexist. Once you add the connotation that big breasts are the only acceptable ones... its a different story.
Dragon's Crown doesn't have anything remotely similar.
I wouldn't say it's not sexist without the text, as the focus is pretty obviously on objectivizing and sexualizing (as a side note, this is why I gave up on the Soul Calibur series entirely over a decade ago; I didn't like seeing reasonably good character designs getting increasingly ridiculous boob jobs).
But I do agree the text is probably the worst of it all. The combination, however, is absolutely terrible, and infinitely worse than Dragon Crown's designs.