I've been on this site for a really, really long time.
I was on the gaming-age forums before neogaf.
I'm pretty sure it's been about 16 years.
And while I'm not on here as much as I once was I was pretty bummed this past weekend.
I don't know anymore. I don't really see the point in migrating to another forum because I'm not all that active on here as it is
Having no off topic right now seems so weird because I probably spent 95% of my GAF time there. I know it'll be back eventually, and even though I never really participated in the more sensitive discussions, cutting them completely seems wrong.
I really had no idea how many people hated this message board before this weekend.
Unfortunately, this is what anger and the internet echo chamber bring out. Sure, some people are rightfully upset and this anger towards GAF has been brewing for a long time, for various different reasons and I get that. However, a large majority of the shit talking both here on GAF (by account suiciders, etc.) and all around the rest of the internet is unfounded. Some people are angered by the alleged events, but the internet seems to run on hate in 2017 so I would venture a guess that a lot more people are just jumping on the band wagon and following others to feel part of something. The echo chamber seems to have blown the allegation that started this explosion way out of proportion as well. Sexual assault or assault of ANY kind for that matter is not okay. Harassment is not right in my book. I am also not condoning any alleged behavior at all. However, from what has been reported, the situation in question is sexual harassment at the most (because assault is actually something physical) and an awkward, misread situation at the least. I think the whole thing just got way blown up and honestly a lot of people probably haven't even attempted to look at the actual facts, rather instead relying on hearsay.
I too am very sad to see the spiral this place is currently in. It is sad that so many long time posters are leaving. As someone who has been here a long time but is more of a reader than a poster, I am not known around here and don't have a huge post count. However, it is always nice to have a community to follow along with and see those frequent, familiar names pop up, so it is tough to see this happen. I had many of the same feelings as you did this weekend.
I will stick around here to follow along with the community members who are left, because like the OP I still love this place as a gaming community. I think things will eventually settle down, OT will come back and hopefully changes will be for the better. I also intend to check out other communities that start from former members because I do think they have a potential to improve on what GAF was, is and has become.
At the heart of everything, we are all humans who have feelings, emotions, thoughts, views, etc. My only hope is that we can someday let those human similarities (AND differences) bring us together and stop being so hateful as a species. At the core of it all, past, present and future GAF members are all here to partake in shared interests, which should remind us that we are indeed human.