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funkmastergeneral
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HolyStar said:
dude, Ryan Reynolds? I would join in.
BigBlackGamer
Member
funniest thing in this thread is all the insane ads....
interracial love
hard-on pills
do you have a disease?
:lol
interracial love
hard-on pills
do you have a disease?
:lol
onadesertedisland
Member
the perception that it will affect you differently than another male having sex with your girl is only because it has not happened yet.
the road this is leading is a sign that the relationship is in deep troubles.
the road this is leading is a sign that the relationship is in deep troubles.
You mention that you're engaged and in love, but honestly, if either of you are even remotely thinking about being with another person, that relationship is doomed and its not love. When you're in love with another person, you shouldn't need or want intercourse with another person, no matter what the gender.
So, basically this is a swinger question, but with a woman.
Honestly, it's up to you. I can't condone the behavior because I don't believe in it. But, I'm not going to stop you if you are okay with it. Just know what you're getting yourself into, especially since this is setting the tone of your future marriage as well.
Honestly, it's up to you. I can't condone the behavior because I don't believe in it. But, I'm not going to stop you if you are okay with it. Just know what you're getting yourself into, especially since this is setting the tone of your future marriage as well.
SpeedingUptoStop
will totally Facebook friend you! *giggle* *LOL*
I saw the first half of that pic and was like "eh, a bit thick" then I hit the spacebar(page down) and i was like DAAAAAAAAMN.mosaic said:Only if it's Adamrogo's girlfriend...
... am I right?
A Link to the Past
Banned
Well, I wouldn't let her go off with this chick and start bumping uglies. Maybe, maybe if I was chaperoning her...
You're engaged to her, so that means marriage and eventually kids most likely.
Do you want to have kids with a woman that wants to engage in acts of debauchery and lust like that?
Seriously, if you want to share your sexual partners with other people, then do it with a girl you're not emotionally attached to. But you already mentioned you experimented with another couple. I'm assuming you're both swingers? That relationship is already headed for disaster, dude.
Do you want to have kids with a woman that wants to engage in acts of debauchery and lust like that?
Seriously, if you want to share your sexual partners with other people, then do it with a girl you're not emotionally attached to. But you already mentioned you experimented with another couple. I'm assuming you're both swingers? That relationship is already headed for disaster, dude.
Why not? She is being honest and upfront about it. Not to mention it ain't a bad thing to get off too:lol
But at the same time, Its really no different as another man plowing her. I always find it amusing people have this heaven and hell difference just because of the sex but its still cheating in the end.
I would say why not out of the two. She is telling you about it, you know the other girl and everything. So...why not? You can't really ever control other person. So whats the purpose of holding them back? They are going do what they want one way or another. But might I add, act a bit jealous too. Girls get off on that stuff allot of times ^_^
Then again...I wouldn't really listen to me. I'm in the Join in group If Ryan Renold's is plowing your girlfriend. Hes really sexy:lol
But at the same time, Its really no different as another man plowing her. I always find it amusing people have this heaven and hell difference just because of the sex but its still cheating in the end.
I would say why not out of the two. She is telling you about it, you know the other girl and everything. So...why not? You can't really ever control other person. So whats the purpose of holding them back? They are going do what they want one way or another. But might I add, act a bit jealous too. Girls get off on that stuff allot of times ^_^
Then again...I wouldn't really listen to me. I'm in the Join in group If Ryan Renold's is plowing your girlfriend. Hes really sexy:lol
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Deleted member 1235
Unconfirmed Member
If I could arrange it that a girl I was with would get busy with another woman, while I watched or participated and she would never touch other dudes, I would, from that point on in my life refer to this time as 'the golden age'
EDIT: oh right, you're going to marry her? uhhhh. Well, I guess you're better of seeing if she's into this stuff now than finding out later. You could lose her to women in general, but saying no won't stop that from happening if it's on the cards.
EDIT: oh right, you're going to marry her? uhhhh. Well, I guess you're better of seeing if she's into this stuff now than finding out later. You could lose her to women in general, but saying no won't stop that from happening if it's on the cards.
Immortal_Daemon said:
My first girlfriend was an internet thing, and though she's the only ex I still care for it really doesn't work in any way. Intimacy and a physical presence are really necessary for things to work, I think.
That said, my Mom and Step Dad met online. On Slingo at that.
RaymondCarver
Member
If No: Then, No.
If Yes: Then, seven words:
Ladies Using STRAP ONs on Other Ladies.
Consider that you're not the only person that could make her moan and, for a short time there after, sit and walk funny.
If Yes: Then, seven words:
Ladies Using STRAP ONs on Other Ladies.
Consider that you're not the only person that could make her moan and, for a short time there after, sit and walk funny.
Tyrannical
Banned
Watching isn't good enough. If they can touch her, you can touch them.
Companion Cube
Member
That's a pretty good rule. :lolTyrannical said:
Mr. Spinnington
Banned
consensus ruledTyrannical said:
Anasui Kishibe
Banned
double anal and double blowjob? Probably yes
but it ends there. One drill time and it's over, no further story
but it ends there. One drill time and it's over, no further story
This is coming from a person who would have the same (negative) reaction to walking in on my SO with a man or women, but, I wouldn't let this happen.
First of all, you're saying it's ok if you say yes, she will respect that etc. But after a few times of you saying yes, you get uncomfortable with a proposition and say no. She's gunna be pissed. She will probably do it anyway.
Next up, will you be comfortable with this becoming a regular occurance? Her going and fucking this women? If it's something new, it's likely to be more exciting for her then fucking you so why wouldn't she want to do it again. I'd suggest she might not enjoy it but, you've already said she's done it before.
As you're at Uni, she doesn't have anyone to go to when she gets horny.. You've given her someone to mess about with. I mean this situation surely would be hard to manage/monitor whilst you're there, but, being 300 miles away makes it pretty obvious what's going to happen right?
First of all, you're saying it's ok if you say yes, she will respect that etc. But after a few times of you saying yes, you get uncomfortable with a proposition and say no. She's gunna be pissed. She will probably do it anyway.
Next up, will you be comfortable with this becoming a regular occurance? Her going and fucking this women? If it's something new, it's likely to be more exciting for her then fucking you so why wouldn't she want to do it again. I'd suggest she might not enjoy it but, you've already said she's done it before.
As you're at Uni, she doesn't have anyone to go to when she gets horny.. You've given her someone to mess about with. I mean this situation surely would be hard to manage/monitor whilst you're there, but, being 300 miles away makes it pretty obvious what's going to happen right?
Outcast2004
Banned
I'm just scratching my head wondering just WHAT the TC was hoping to get out of this?
Validation? Advice even though he says he didn't want it?
Color me confused as to WHAT he was hoping to accomplish..
Here... I'll state this very plainly. YOUR GIRL IS A (explitive deleted due to ban fear). SHE DOESNT LOVE YOU AND SHE WILL CHEAT ON YOU WHILE YOU'RE GONE.
If she "loved" you, she wouldn't want to be dicking around with other people, regardless of gender. Same goes for you... if you "loved" her, you wouldn't let her be getting pleased by anyone but you.
I know my stomach would be in knots if I knew for a second that someone other than myself was touching her.
This topic actually sickens me.
Validation? Advice even though he says he didn't want it?
Color me confused as to WHAT he was hoping to accomplish..
Here... I'll state this very plainly. YOUR GIRL IS A (explitive deleted due to ban fear). SHE DOESNT LOVE YOU AND SHE WILL CHEAT ON YOU WHILE YOU'RE GONE.
If she "loved" you, she wouldn't want to be dicking around with other people, regardless of gender. Same goes for you... if you "loved" her, you wouldn't let her be getting pleased by anyone but you.
I know my stomach would be in knots if I knew for a second that someone other than myself was touching her.
This topic actually sickens me.
Zedsdeadbaby
Banned
mosaic said:Only if it's Adamrogo's girlfriend...
... am I right?
'The knees are too sharp'
ItAintEasyBeinCheesy
it's 4th of July in my asshole
Damn shes a smokin hot butterface, but i could get used to it. Do you get to watch or what?
lastendconductor
Put your snobby liquids into my mouth!
Definitely yes.
EDIT: omg instaerection ^^^
EDIT: omg instaerection ^^^
OK, so here's the deal.
Most of the people who are telling you not to do this are not objecting on moral grounds -- they are objecting on PRACTICAL grounds. It's very simple: The vast majority of the time that people in a monogamous relationship start having sex with other people, whether condoned by both partners ("swinging") or not ("cheating"), the relationship fails. Many posters have shared their own anecdotal evidence, but I'm sure you would hear the same thing if you asked a much larger set of people. It's just how it works with human beings, no matter how we wish things might be otherwise.
So, there is an extremely high probability that your current relationship is already doomed since this isn't the first time you have involved others in the bedroom with you and your GF and she obviously enjoyed the experience enough to want to do something like it again. There are other risk factors that drive the probability even higher that things won't end well: your age, the distance, the fact that you're in college and people change a LOT in college. For what it's worth, the only couples I know who survived this situation did it ONCE, realized instantly that they had barely survived a game of Russian roulette with their feelings, and NEVER did it again. And, more than that -- not only did they not do it again, they truly didn't WANT to do it again.
Claiming that every person is unique and every relationship is different is a truism -- it isn't a valid rationale for believing that somehow, you will be the 0.01% (or whatever) that survive this situation intact. Lhadatt is dead-on -- why in the world did you create this thread if you didn't want to listen? You're picking and choosing what you want to hear: "Oh, it's still OK, but maybe I should be there." No, dude -- IT'S NOT OK, PERIOD. Unless you recognize that things are doomed and have changed your stance to be, "well, I should enjoy things while they last," which is where mosaic was coming from. The way he worded it was harsh, but he's basically accurate as well. The simple fact is that most of your dating life is going to be a series of failures, but the purpose of that sequence is to a) have some crazy-ass fun and b) learn about who you are and what you're really looking for. It's training to eventually get things right with a quality girl (or guy, if the ladies are reading this) since we do NOT come into this world knowing shit about how to make someone happy over the long run, and you don't want to find yourself in the situation of losing someone great because you didn't go through the necessary screw-ups when you were supposed to.
Finally, I'm not some kind of genius about dating. I'm not that attractive or smooth, and I'm not a psychologist by training. But there are three kinds of people in the world -- those who burn themselves on a hot stove repeatedly, those who burn themselves once, and those who watch the other two kinds burning themselves and figure out to stay the fuck away from the stove when it's hot. I try to be in that last category as much as I can, and I tell others about where I got all those little scars on my hand to do my part.
So take it or leave it, man, but at least recognize that a lot of people made a gift of their time and hard-earned wisdom in this thread...and in a lot of threads on GAF. They don't know you, they don't have any kind of stake in what happens to you, and yet for some reason, they take the time to share some shit to try and help you out. You very well might have to go burn yourself, but at least show some respect.
Most of the people who are telling you not to do this are not objecting on moral grounds -- they are objecting on PRACTICAL grounds. It's very simple: The vast majority of the time that people in a monogamous relationship start having sex with other people, whether condoned by both partners ("swinging") or not ("cheating"), the relationship fails. Many posters have shared their own anecdotal evidence, but I'm sure you would hear the same thing if you asked a much larger set of people. It's just how it works with human beings, no matter how we wish things might be otherwise.
So, there is an extremely high probability that your current relationship is already doomed since this isn't the first time you have involved others in the bedroom with you and your GF and she obviously enjoyed the experience enough to want to do something like it again. There are other risk factors that drive the probability even higher that things won't end well: your age, the distance, the fact that you're in college and people change a LOT in college. For what it's worth, the only couples I know who survived this situation did it ONCE, realized instantly that they had barely survived a game of Russian roulette with their feelings, and NEVER did it again. And, more than that -- not only did they not do it again, they truly didn't WANT to do it again.
Claiming that every person is unique and every relationship is different is a truism -- it isn't a valid rationale for believing that somehow, you will be the 0.01% (or whatever) that survive this situation intact. Lhadatt is dead-on -- why in the world did you create this thread if you didn't want to listen? You're picking and choosing what you want to hear: "Oh, it's still OK, but maybe I should be there." No, dude -- IT'S NOT OK, PERIOD. Unless you recognize that things are doomed and have changed your stance to be, "well, I should enjoy things while they last," which is where mosaic was coming from. The way he worded it was harsh, but he's basically accurate as well. The simple fact is that most of your dating life is going to be a series of failures, but the purpose of that sequence is to a) have some crazy-ass fun and b) learn about who you are and what you're really looking for. It's training to eventually get things right with a quality girl (or guy, if the ladies are reading this) since we do NOT come into this world knowing shit about how to make someone happy over the long run, and you don't want to find yourself in the situation of losing someone great because you didn't go through the necessary screw-ups when you were supposed to.
Finally, I'm not some kind of genius about dating. I'm not that attractive or smooth, and I'm not a psychologist by training. But there are three kinds of people in the world -- those who burn themselves on a hot stove repeatedly, those who burn themselves once, and those who watch the other two kinds burning themselves and figure out to stay the fuck away from the stove when it's hot. I try to be in that last category as much as I can, and I tell others about where I got all those little scars on my hand to do my part.
So take it or leave it, man, but at least recognize that a lot of people made a gift of their time and hard-earned wisdom in this thread...and in a lot of threads on GAF. They don't know you, they don't have any kind of stake in what happens to you, and yet for some reason, they take the time to share some shit to try and help you out. You very well might have to go burn yourself, but at least show some respect.
Anasui Kishibe
Banned
you know, that's an appetizing body, but I can't unsee her head being kinda disproportionate
A Link to the Past
Banned
ItAintEasyBeinCheesy said:
Why do people find issue in her face so much? It's true that she's a butterface, but it doesn't make her unappealing or anything.
Also, I lol at the TC for saying that his gf couldn't love another woman.
Yeah, he knows the mindset of high school girlfriend so well. :lol
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