CarpeDeezNutz
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And what the fuck is all this "no sex punishment"?
A girl should be BEGGING for the d, not vice versa (the man begging for the v).
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And what the fuck is all this "no sex punishment"?
A girl should be BEGGING for the d, not vice versa (the man begging for the v).
She sounds like a prude and a bit of a bore, at least the way you're describing her.
Right. But the question is whether they love each other and are willing to communicate to keep it going. It's quite possible that if they talk it out she's going to see the same things OP is seeing. There may be mutual agreement that things are too far gone.18 months, out of 4.5 years, has been a dead bedroom. She uses sex as a bargaining chip/weapon. That shit is bad, and not normal.
This seems silly and passive aggressive, but I think I've been subconsciously doing this for years (although I do game far less now that at any point in my life, some because I'm busy, some because I know it irritates her to no end). Most recently, I decided to take a trip to the Dominican with my parents in March (for my great aunt's birthday), a trip she was quite insistent that I NOT take because she couldn't come with me.
I still haven't told her that I booked it (about 10 days ago), not looking forward to the fallout there.
And what the fuck is all this "no sex punishment"?
A girl should be BEGGING for the d, not vice versa (the man begging for the v).
Fuck all those other people, you're not beholden to them to stay in a crappy relationship that has run its course. I know you obviously care about them but how can anyone ask you to get married to a girl you don't love anymore?
Most recently, I decided to take a trip to the Dominican with my parents in March (for my great aunt's birthday), a trip she was quite insistent that I NOT take because she couldn't come with me.
I still haven't told her that I booked it (about 10 days ago), not looking forward to the fallout there.
Maybe you can trick her into ending it? Adopt a cat, play more video games, cook steaks for dinner.
Just send a text with a link to this thread.
Perfect. Clean and smooth.
We used to have sex every week when we lived 30-45 minutes away, often multiple times a week in the summer when she didn't have to work. I know the "Honeymoon" phase of any relationship never lasts, but I never thought it would get this bad.
No doggy?
No Halloween?
No deal.
prone bone
I have not heard this term before and it doesn't sound too fun. Is it missionary?
You turn a girl around like you are about to go doggystyle but she lays flat on her stomach, try it especially if your girl has a bubble booty it's awesome.
British dudes call it the jockey which I think is more fitting haha.
You turn a girl around like you are about to go doggystyle but she lays flat on her stomach, try it especially if your girl has a bubble booty it's awesome.
British dudes call it the jockey which I think is more fitting haha.
She doesn't eat meat, which means when we cook dinner together it is pasta, pizza, or fish which gets boring after a while.
She's not a vegetarian for health or moral reasons so it annoys me every god damn time I think about it
That's more appropriately called the "backswing"
She's a sap for staying with you so long without a ring if getting married was a dealbreaker for her. You're a sap for not proposing or breaking up when you knew marriage was important to her 5 years ago. The only right way to break up is to do it as soon as earthly possible.
hates fireworks, hates roller coasters
This isn't how relationships work. You fight for a relationship every day you're in it... by giving your all to make the other person happy to the best of your ability. If the current state of OP's relationship is the best his gf is capable of giving, then she needs to be single because she's a terrible gf and, by extension, not a very good human being.Tell her how you feel. You've been together this long and she deserves a chance to fight for the relationship if she chooses.
This is the internet, not a hugbox. Helpful and knowledgeable are what I was going for. Positivity is not indicated because OP is not blameless or helpless. He created this situation with his inaction as much as his girlfriend created it with her weapons of guilt and sex-withholding. The first time she said, "Welp you're sleeping on the couch tonight, you schlub," he should have laughed in her face and walked out on her. That was probably 5 or 6 years ago. In the interim, he's being a huge coward and that is not laudable.So positive. So helpful. So knowledgeable. I give this post a 9/10
This thread is a great reminder to the youngsters to assert what you want, and don't want, early in a relationship. Also, to listen to your new partner, when he/she asserts the same to you.
Never settle.
This is the internet, not a hugbox. Helpful and knowledgeable are what I was going for.
The first time she said, "Welp you're sleeping on the couch tonight, you schlub," he should have laughed in her face and walked out on her
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she wants to be a married sex-withholding control freak. OP wants to be in a healthy relationship
Edit: You're obviously incapable of understanding how to provide distressed people with advice so you should probably either try to be funny or leave.
Hey GAF,
I think she's more in love with the idea of being together, than she is in love with me.
Sounds like it'll be hard regardless of what you choose. I would try to talk to her and try to say everything you've said in the OP. Like seriously tell her our relationship has issues and start telling her, even if you can't say it all at once, try to tell her over multiple days in a row. Remember, you do have the right to have your demands met in a relationship, don't allow yourself to be a pushover for the sake of keeping her "happy". What she's doing by holding out sex, and shaming you about things is borderline abusive. I would like for you to google "abusive relationship" and see if you fall into any of that. There shouldn't be threats in a relationship, you two should be working together. Some of these issues come up in relationships, the true test is if you can work them out, but it sounds like it would be hard for the both of you guys.
Some things to consider, would you and her be able to find new relationships? Being out of the dating pool for so long might make it really difficult. Would you be alright seeing her with another dude? Would you want to stay friends? You will both suffer from loss, it won't be easy being by yourself for maybe 1 or 2 years, possibly more. Maybe you guys should also consider taking a break from each other for a while and seeing what your feelings are after that.
And you're totally right, a lot of girls love being in a relationship more than they love the actual guy. You are probably being objectified, as a source of happiness, and baby, rather than her caring about you as a person. There is all this talk about sexual objectification of women, but it is a small guise over the ways a man can be objectified.
can't really comment that much since we've only heard your side, which of course presents some bias. hearing from you, she's such a not-so-nice gf, but what if she also says the same terrible things about you?
if you aren't happy then just let it go.
This isn't how relationships work. You fight for a relationship every day you're in it... by giving your all to make the other person happy to the best of your ability. If the current state of OP's relationship is the best his gf is capable of giving, then she needs to be single because she's a terrible gf and, by extension, not a very good human being.