That's why I prefer apps that "match" you or you "choose" someone, like Tinder, Bumble, or Coffee Meets Bagel. You come pre-vetted, almost. The chance of a reply is higher than just cold messaging someone.
Yeah it's not the greatest thing that you have to link and pull information and pictures by linking to facebook.I don't want to create a Facebook account, so Tinder is unfortunately no option. I hadn't heard of the other two before, but I just learned that both of them require Facebook as well. Damn.
I've just started getting into this online dating thing. It seems alright so far, but my matches are still pretty low. I figure the main thing is my pictures but I have no idea on how to take good pictures.
I don't want to create a Facebook account, so Tinder is unfortunately no option. I hadn't heard of the other two before, but I just learned that both of them require Facebook as well. Damn.
Tinder's useless unless you're handsomeI don't want to create a Facebook account, so Tinder is unfortunately no option. I hadn't heard of the other two before, but I just learned that both of them require Facebook as well. Damn.
Tinder's useless unless you're handsome
You have enough text room for like, one sentence. It's by far the most aesthetics-driven dating app.not at all
(although i am handsome)
You have enough text room for like, one sentence. It's by far the most aesthetics-driven dating app.
You have enough text room for like, one sentence. It's by far the most aesthetics-driven dating app.
Tinder's useless unless you're handsome
No it's not. What you need is a great photo, which I got by chance on a New Year's party two years ago. I'm far from good looking, perhaps average I guess but not more than that, and I've had definite success with Tinder. Before getting Tinder at 22 I had never kissed a girl, and a few months later I had sex for the first time with a Tinder date. That is after countless of failed attempts of pulling someone home from the club, mostly because I thought I wasn't good looking enough. Apparently I was for some people as Tinder would suggest, though also I think I'm pretty charismatic which is something you can't really show in the club in the same way as a one on one date.
Why are you so against a facebook account?
Even if you are against Facebook, make a dummy account for the purposes of Tinder dating.
No it's not. What you need is a great photo, which I got by chance on a New Year's party two years ago. I'm far from good looking, perhaps average I guess but not more than that, and I've had definite success with Tinder. Before getting Tinder at 22 I had never kissed a girl, and a few months later I had sex for the first time with a Tinder date. That is after countless of failed attempts of pulling someone home from the club, mostly because I thought I wasn't good looking enough. Apparently I was for some people as Tinder would suggest, though also I think I'm pretty charismatic which is something you can't really show in the club in the same way as a one on one date.
If I had a social life then Tinder would be viable for me. No social life=no good pictures. The sad thing is that I have started working in retail and I've talked to more people in 2 days than I have in the past 6 months. Really failing to click with people for some reason.
If I had a social life then Tinder would be viable for me. No social life=no good pictures. The sad thing is that I have started working in retail and I've talked to more people in 2 days than I have in the past 6 months. Really failing to click with people for some reason.
I guess that's an option? Not sure.
Apart from personal data like the first name, the age and the location, what kind of data does Tinder use? Or to put it differently, what kind of information should I enter at Facebook? Looking at screenshots, Tinder seems to display the university and the current job below one's name, so that's something I should probably include. Anything else?
I care about privacy too much.
I guess that's an option? Not sure.
Apart from personal data like the first name, the age and the location, what kind of data does Tinder use? Or to put it differently, what kind of information should I enter at Facebook? Looking at screenshots, Tinder seems to display the university and the current job below one's name, so that's something I should probably include. Anything else?
This sounds pretty encouraging.
..but then again, I don't have a social life either, so the only pictures I could upload are selfies taken at home.
. . . the only pictures I could upload are selfies taken at home.
Live up to your name.
I have five photos for tinder. One of my dogs, one of a painting I did, one selfie and two of celebration parties (my bday and my homeboy's engagement party). I barely have pictures of my social life. I'm sure you can muster something up.
All you need to enter on facebook is your first name (you can make up a last name for Facebook, tinder doesn't display it) and age.
Your location is taken care of by Tinder.
You can even make a private album on Facebook, load up your photos in it, so that nobody can see your photos outside of tinder.
You don't need your job, school, interests on tinder. I don't put those in mine.
You don't have to have all that stuff filled out. Just make one with your name and upload your pics.
About photos, you need to work on having a social life first. Going on Tinder won't solve that. As I and others have pointed out as nauseum in this thread, you need to make yourself and interesting person and someone who others want to date. Whether that means going out and taking part in interesting hobbies, traveling, playing an instrument, or whatever - you need to answer the question "would I date me"?
Selfies of you sitting around your apartment aren't going to get you very far, unless you are super handsome. Good looking photos taken while out in the world doing something, OTOH, can work wonders for someone who isn't as good looking. Because at the end of the day, your ability to carry on a conversation about interesting things on that first date is going to matter a lot.
Live up to your name.
Ayyy lmao. But true.
I'm trying. But my social anxiety, which is a whole story in itself and something I'd rather not expand on in this thread, doesn't make it easy.
Why yes, the irony of my username is not lost on me. Back then when I signed up here, the name was still fitting.
I care about privacy too much.
I guess that's an option? Not sure.
Apart from personal data like the first name, the age and the location, what kind of data does Tinder use? Or to put it differently, what kind of information should I enter at Facebook? Looking at screenshots, Tinder seems to display the university and the current job below one's name, so that's something I should probably include. Anything else?
This sounds pretty encouraging.
..but then again, I don't have a social life either, so the only pictures I could upload are selfies taken at home.
If your social anxiety is so bad that the _thought_ of creating a fake Facebook account is making you nervous, you need to be looking for a therapist, not a girlfriend.
What? It's not. Where did you take this from?
I was referring to the "going out and get a social life" part.
I swiped very unpicky on Tinder for 9 months, routinely changing/updating pictures to be more flattering/attractive to myself, and never got a single date from it.
Guess your mileage varies. OKC? Yes, I at least get the occasional meetup from that. Literally not one single from Tinder in almost an entire year in a very popular metropolis with a huge young demographic. Not one.
Post-college, it's socializing outside of work and bars that's the biggest challenge, I find. I'm not an athletic guy so a big portion of the Meetups here are not really up my alley (volleyball, flag football, etc).
I work downtown so I can always get a drink at happy hour... but I just don't feel like the bar is the place for women, at my age. Even when I was younger, I never imagined my chances as very successful at bars (where cold approaches are pretty worthless)
. Apparently I was for some people as Tinder would suggest, though also I think I'm pretty charismatic which is something you can't really show in the club in the same way as a one on one date.
Hey guys, it has been awhile but last time I posted here I had a story about my religious GF about 10ish pages ago, some of you gave me very good tips and told me I should talk to her again. So I did last week, and here is what happened (here is my original post for those who are interested: http://www.neogaf.com/forum/showpost.php?p=199471720&postcount=14825)
so, I couldn't wait until the end of the semester to talk to her about it . I ended up telling her on FB how she was making me sad and lost, and then she follwoed with some huge hysteria ( stuff like '' omg I thought we were going so well, please we will talk about whats bugging you dont leave me, please don't hurt me... you see the kind) which made me feel reallllly bad.
So at the end of the week I meet with her in a room at school with only us 2. After awhile she looks at me and shes like '' Whales, please tell me what is wrong''
And so I go next to her and I start talking about how I had a problem with the fact she could never tell me she loved me and how I feel like just a good friend to her and nothing else. We start talking, and in the end I also tell her I seriously did not see myself marrying a women who won't even touch me even after 1 year we've been together, and that if she can't do it now I can't see how she'd magically do it after marriage. She ended up telling me '' you know i'm religious and you are too, this isn't good, we should not be hugging and kissing and you know it.... You will have what you want after we get married I can promise it''. After that, we talked a little bit more about ourselves, and then we left. I decided I was still gonna stay with her because I really love her and I just couldn't bring myself to quit just because of this.
Fast forward 1 week later ( and she has been acting like this for 3 weeks now) and holy crap, she is pretty much hugging me and holding my hand everytime we are together. I have no clue what happened with her but it's like she's a whole new person. When we are alone she is not shy anymore and she will come next to me to start sleeping on my shoulder, or hug me, or give me a kiss on the cheek. It's like she started loving me 50x more for some reason. I'm happy
Anyway, in the end it looks like everything is good now, and I just wanted to thank GAF for the little tips I was given. thank you all!!
Are you actually satisfied or are you satisficing? There's a difference. I can, on some level, understand abstaining from sex before marriage. I can, on many levels, grasp not having sex before you're in a serious relationship.
But no kissing? No extended hugging? After a year? If you're actually happy, that's wonderful, but I think your original concern about her not being able to fully adjust bears revisiting.
I swiped very unpicky on Tinder for 9 months, routinely changing/updating pictures to be more flattering/attractive to myself, and never got a single date from it.
Guess your mileage varies. OKC? Yes, I at least get the occasional meetup from that. Literally not one single from Tinder in almost an entire year in a very popular metropolis with a huge young demographic. Not one.
Since you were 22? So during your last 6-year relationship you didn't feel a spark or anything?
The "butterflies" feeling is different for everyone and depends on the circumstances. Even if you replicated the summer fling you had, your feelings and reactions would be different.
That said, it's only been a month so your feelings for her could change. If you want to keep seeing her, do so and see where things are going. If you're not feeling it or think that she's moving too fast, be honest with her and don't string her along.
Like 6 < 1 year old photos of me exist, all unflattering. Except for 1 which is of me with a cute bird on my arm.I have five photos for tinder. One of my dogs, one of a painting I did, one selfie and two of celebration parties (my bday and my homeboy's engagement party). I barely have pictures of my social life. I'm sure you can muster something up.
Like 6 < 1 year old photos of me exist, all unflattering. Except for 1 which is of me with a cute bird on my arm.
My friends don't tend to take many photos of social events.
Does Tinder limit your "likes" every 24 hours or whatever? I noticed my "like" heart icon is filling up and it says "please try your purchase later". Tinder newbie here.
Does Tinder limit your "likes" every 24 hours or whatever? I noticed my "like" heart icon is filling up and it says "please try your purchase later". Tinder newbie here.
Every 12 hours, you get a new "set" of likes. You also get one "super like" every 12 hours.
Tinder Plus gets you unlimited likes. As well as 5 super likes (every 12 hours).
fuck I wish I lived in an area that I could get even close to the limit
fuck I wish I lived in an area that I could get even close to the limit
Oh and if you guys are gonna suggest that I should join clubs, its past half of semester 2 I'm better off doing that next year.
Ok so I need your guys' advice again...
Long story short first year in this new high school I just moved into and already past half of the 1st semester here and I don't have that much friends. I tried asking a girl out but she turned me down got over that now but more importantly my current priority is that I should make friends so I know how to make small talk and be more social etc. I just expanded my wardrobe quite a but for going outside and have started going to the gym(btw what do you guys think I should do when it comes to losing weight here? Not really intersted in muscles just losing weight really) so I'm pretty sure I have everything set except for the social part... So what do you guys think I should do to familiarize myself with what to do when it comes to having conversations and understanding other people?Is there a book you would reccomend or something? The high school kids here seem like your average youth if that helps... I just want friends and maybe a girlfriend I guess nefore the summer if that's possible(prolly not).
Oh and if you guys are gonna suggest that I should join clubs, its past half of semester 2 I'm better off doing that next year.
And as for a job my parents badically banned me from getting any jobs since they say I need to focus on my education, can't really fault them for that arguement I guess seeing how they were raised and plus even if I was allowed I'm still 15 and my birthday is in September and most hire teens when they're 16 so its honestly better if I did wait until next year or something...
I didn't know how much I'd enjoy cooking until I actually did it. Now I splurge on sous vide machines and Nutribullets, and I have actual spices. A year ago, it was Lean Pockets and Greek yogurt. Sad children blossom into sad adults without some course correction.