chicko1983
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I just caught up with my mate but he didn't get a number last night, so I guess that is that
You got her number on Thursday, and wonder if Saturday is too late? No, no it is not. you're already overthinking. Even if it was too late, text her anyway. Worst thing that can happen is you get ignored.
Finally got back on Tinder
Though I've got to say, the amount of "LOL not really 24, 16" profiles is hugely disturbing. Insta-reported :|
I just caught up with my mate but he didn't get a number last night, so I guess that is that
Did you not even catch a first name or anything? Guess all you can do is scour through Facebook, if she's around your age then surely you'll have at least one mutual friend which will help narrow the search down. Even call into the bar and ask the name of the girl whose party she was at and you can start that way. You seemed really into her so why not follow up on it.
Honestly, you've put way too much thought into this particular girl.
Yeah, I am still thinking about it and kicking myself. I had plenty of opportunities to get her number, and even kiss her, but held off as there wasn't any pressure to get it as I knew she would give it to me at the end of the night.
Yeah I got her first name, but not surname. Same thing with her friend. And both of their names were pretty common (too common to scour Facebook).
So she isn't my age (Im 32, she is around 25 based on from when she said she finished school) and I racked my brains as to any other detail which may help me narrow the search down, however we didn't talk about work other than she said she was an administrator when I tried to guess her occupation (which is a good little pick up line Ive found by the way).
The party also wasn't really a formal party, organised through the bar, but rather an informal gathering of friends at the bar for the girls Bday.
Another avenue would be to go onto Tinder, as we joked about that. However, I don't have facebook at the moment so cannot access tinder. And even then it would be a bit of luck as I live in a city.
My last resort would be to go back to the same bar this weekend, and hope that she decides to do the same. This is probably the thing that I will most likely do.
I've only got myself to blame though.
I'm seriously debating using Fetlife as a means to get laid. I mean, there must be plenty of women there who are into fucking inexperienced guys.
This is my surprised face.Nvm, that was a terrible idea, the site is mostly full of men and a lot of the users are like 40-50, sigh, hardly any 20 something women using it
I wouldn't mind some neutral views on something I've had going on recently:
Been talking to this girl for a while, hung out with her a few times. She's cute/shy (at least in person). We've both been flirting with each other a lot but I generally play things cool/aloof around girls in person, which can be to my detriment.
This girl can be quite needy/insecure/immature through text; she always seeks validation from me for things she does, asks me about me sex life/if I'm talking to any other girls and laughs it off as being curious, tries to make me jealous talking about her sex life (not as active as she'd like me to think I suspect), regularly telling me about which celebrities she'd bang, ect. Obviously that's not all we talk about but TBH thinking about it if me and this girl didn't have really compatible personalities I'd have dropped her out of my life ages ago.
She's too much and I want to take a step back and stop talking to her for a week or two, but I don't want to burn any bridges. She instigates like 90% of our text conversations, so I have to say something. I don't want to just ignore her and I don't want to hurt her - she has shown me her vulnerability - even if she is playing games with me. Any ideas on how I should go about handling this?
My friend has hooked up with a few girls off fetlife. There are definetly some good looking people there.Nvm, that was a terrible idea, the site is mostly full of men and a lot of the users are like 40-50, sigh, hardly any 20 something women using it
Yeah I got her first name, but not surname. Same thing with her friend. And both of their names were pretty common (too common to scour Facebook).
Another avenue would be to go onto Tinder, as we joked about that. However, I don't have facebook at the moment so cannot access tinder. And even then it would be a bit of luck as I live in a city.
How old is this girl? And I'd just be honest....
You've been on a few dates and been talking for some time, yet you've been "aloof". She is pushing you for more.
Reverse the scenario. If a guy here had been on a few dates with a girl and hadn't been getting any signs from her of going any further, everyone would tell him to address the situation (if he likes her), or cut it off (if he doesn't like her).
Did you not even catch a first name or anything? Guess all you can do is scour through Facebook, if she's around your age then surely you'll have at least one mutual friend which will help narrow the search down. Even call into the bar and ask the name of the girl whose party she was at and you can start that way. You seemed really into her so why not follow up on it.
That might be true, but please don't beat yourself up about it too much. Sure, maybe you shouldn't have popped that pill while you were already flirting with a girl you are interested in.
Besides, call me loose canon but IMO there is nothing wrong with doing some mind altering substancesnow and then. Seems like she is of a different mindset. Or at least, that's the impression I got from reading your story.
I'd go to the same bar, but only once. Even if you meet her there again, you'll have some explaining to do and it won't look good for you. All in all, I hope it turns out differently for you, but I wouldn't count on it.
Did she mention any hobbies or interests that could help you find her online? If she likes to travel she might have a couchsurfing profile (lots of people on there who don't even use it)
But I agree, best move on and learn from the experience. Sometimes I'm still angry with myself for losing sight of a girl at a pub crawl some time ago. (We flirted pretty heavily, somehow got separated into different groups, I thought we'd bump into each other on campus for sure, never saw her again)... but some other people I met later that night turned into great friends, so... you never know what happens
Please don't do this, chicko. I get that you are putting too much into this girl you knew for maybe a few hours because you never "click" with other women like this, but look at it from her perspective. Guy shows interest, then disappears to the bathroom and never comes back. You ghosted her. Why would she go out with you even if you did track her down? Also, the hoops you'd have to jump through to even try to get in contact would look, well...creepy. Take something away from the experience, I suppose, and keep trying.
Jesus dude, you put some much thought and effort into this. I'm tired from just reading about how much you've done.
I'm glad you're not thinking about her any more and I really hope you mean that and don't become fixated on finding her again.
Please don't do this, chicko. I get that you are putting too much into this girl you knew for maybe a few hours because you never "click" with other women like this, but look at it from her perspective. Guy shows interest, then disappears to the bathroom and never comes back. You ghosted her. Why would she go out with you even if you did track her down? Also, the hoops you'd have to jump through to even try to get in contact would look, well...creepy. Take something away from the experience, I suppose, and keep trying.
Just got home from my date. We went to one of my favourite restaurants (which she'd never been to and loved), then to see Zootopia (her type of movie, but I liked it.) She was nice enough to treat.
It went really well. She mentioned how I didn't seem as nervous this time, I told her she looked nice, she grabbed my hand near the start of the movie, and then at the end asked if she could be bold and kiss me goodnight.
I suck at kissing, though.
Another female friend told me it's too early to ask her to be in a relationship. We've known each other for several months, but have only gone on two dates.
How old is this girl? 6?Just got home from my date. We went to one of my favourite restaurants (which she'd never been to and loved), then to see Zootopia (her type of movie, but I liked it.) She was nice enough to treat
How old is this girl? 6?
Anyway, glad to hear it went well.
How old is this girl? 6?
Anyway, glad to hear it went well.
How old is this girl? 6?
So what happens when he...doesn't have her jacket?Not really, he could just say he found her jacket and was trying to get in contact with her to give it back or something
And bunch of my Xbox friends are giving me shit for buying Legos I'm like you guys are fucking toolsWhat? Zootopia looks awesome and I'm 23. I got the same reaction when I said me and my date watched Aladdin, also an amazing movie. What's up with not being able to watch kids movies just because you're older? I don't get it.
What? Zootopia looks awesome and I'm 23. I got the same reaction when I said me and my date watched Aladdin, also an amazing movie. What's up with not being able to watch kids movies just because you're older? I don't get it.
A year ago I met this girl at work. Instantly there was chemistry as it was obvious that we both liked each other. She had just come out of a long term relationship and wasnt looking for a new commitment. Myself being a late bloomer, wanted to play the field more. So I guess without anything being said, we both put each other on the back burner. Wanting to fool around, she starting sleeping with another guy from work in a no strings attached arrangement. She didn't even like him, and complained about him constantly. At the same time I started hitting up Tinder. Even with my Tinder dating I only told her about the bad dates, not the good ones as I guess I didn't want her to be too upset. She was understandably a little jealous.
Flash forward to now. We have been constantly flirting and chatting. My friends all told me to stop mucking around and go for her. I finally plucked up the courage to go for it, only to find out that on that very day, she was going on a first date with another girl from work's twin brother. I was crestfallen. She knew I was upset and almost asked if I was ok with this, to which I replied 'No'. She asked if I would be upset if she kissed him... I said 'Yes'. We didnt speak to each other for a week. That whole week I felt awful. Upset, angry, jealous...all the text book things. I was upset because even though she was sleeping with another guy before, I knew it wasn't serious so although I was upset, it wasn't as bad as this...this was dating. This mean't she was looking for a boyfriend and I wasn't it. This weekend at work, I was forlorn. The girl at work whose twin it is, instantly knew that something was up and quizzed me. I shrugged it off and pretty much fled. Word spread fast that something was wrong and so the girl who this post is about began to ring me and text me looking for me. I ignored it. I didn't know what to say, or what to do. Do I go and tell her that I'm upset with her? She might think I'm saying she can't go out with this guy, it could make it worse. So I ignored her. The next day, I accidentally bump into her and she quizzes me about it. I give her a cryptic response. She keeps asking me what's up and it must be something to do with her. Truthfully she knows what's wrong. I walk out and she shakes her head in anger at me.
Looks like I really screwed things up. I don't see that there is any end to this scenario where I come out happy. In conclusion....what the hell do I do?
Don't read too much in to a light-hearted joke, Gotdatmoney and others.People are insecure or want to project some stupid ideal of adulthood based off of arbitrary none sense. I heard Zootopia was great.
Looks like I really screwed things up. I don't see that there is any end to this scenario where I come out happy. In conclusion....what the hell do I do?
I guess telling her to delete her POF account and start something is a bad idea then.
On behalf of my friend:
Every woman who talks to you wants to have sex with you, clearly.I think another woman hit on me yesterday, but I was too nervous to really do anything and screwed it up.
I was at the hospital visiting someone, then went to get on an elevator to head down to the main entrance. I noticed that someone female quickly got on the elevator ahead of me with a big cart, so I debated just waiting for the next one. However, I figured there was probably room, was in a rush, etc, so I pressed the down arrow and the door opened again.
I asked her if there was room, she said yes, then apologized as she hadn't seen me there (understandable). The door closed, then she jokingly asked if I was sure I wanted to get on an elevator with her.
I laughed, and said sure, then clammed up and kept looking at my fingers/phone. Then the ride ended, she said to have a good night, I replied and left.
Every woman who talks to you wants to have sex with you, clearly.
Every woman who talks to you wants to have sex with you, clearly.
Pretty much this right here. Sorry, Chewie, not every woman who is nice is interested in you.