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Most clueless you've ever been to sexual/romantic advances?

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One time, my mom invited me to her friends house at Turks and Caicos and her friend had a hot daughter and cute friend. I had a small house to my own next my mom's friends house and the two girls came over one night and asked if they wanted a sleepover. I said no and yeah, I kinda fucked that up. Later they got boyfriends and I was all alone...
Thankfully I can get other girl no problem, but they were pretty cute although a bit older than me.
 
*bangs head against desk*

"I wasn't serious, I was only being hypothetical!"

Well at least I didn't mention the one involving the library storage room and an attractive female co-worker telling me, "You know you could have sex down here and no one would know."

There were quite a few sexual/romantic situations between HS and college... :/ I ended up losing my virginity to a girl I didn't even really like that much in HS.
 
Girl asks me to spend the night with her in her apartment and me declining because "I preferred to sleep at home".

In my defence there was a certain amount of alcohol in my bloodstream. Didn't prevent me from facepalming hard the next day.
 

CrankyJay

Banned
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Raiden

Banned
Actually had one this weekend.

Went to this party with a couple of friends. A girl walked up to me and asked for a smoke, gave her one, some small talk. But i never think anything of stuff like this because you know .. just a cigarette, i ask for one from time to time.

Anyway her friendgroup is right next to us, everybody dances a bit, she "accidentally" bumps into me, again some smalltalk.

Two of my friends keep telling me that she is checking me out everytime i talk to this other girl in my group and just in general. I dont notice her doing that so whatever.

She bumps into me again and offers to buy me a drink. I dont even know why i did that but i just said "nah thanks thats okay i"m good" I smile at her and pretty much walk away.

Still confused at my stupidity. Sometimes stuff like that only starts to make sense once you sober up a bit and think back on the situation.
 

andylsun

Member
This thread is still delivering wonderfully - makes me feel not so bad, but would still punch my 18 year old self in the head and tell myself to get a clue...
 

AlexBasch

Member
Realizing I could have had a threesome at goddamn age 14 with my then best friend and her cute friend invited me to play videogames and ended up chatting in bed and whatnot, but I wanted to keep playing Star Fox 64.

Okay, maybe threesome is stretching it up a bit, but maybe fool around with two girls who I later found out were bicurious and whatnot. Ended up having sex with the cute friend some years later though.

But hey, Star fucking Fox 64.
 

DJ_Lae

Member
I had gone to meet a girl that I had been chatting with online a fair bit - this was a while ago now, probably 13 years at this point.

Anyway, I flew over there, met her and her parents. They had come in that day because they were obviously concerned about this weird guy coming over to visit their 17-year-old daughter (I was 18), and were okay with it as long as they paid for a hotel room for me to stay in rather than me sleeping in their daughter's apartment. Her dad was a very old fashioned farmer and I was pretty convinced he had a shotgun under his car seat.

Anyway, I get settled in, they pay for the room for two nights, and drive back home outside the city. The daughter and I wander around the city the following day, chatting, visiting outdoor markets and wandering around the river. We eat dinner, catch a movie, hang out in her apartment, and she walks me back to the hotel.

"Mind if I see your room?"

Sure, why not, though I remember being a bit confused as it's just your typical hotel room. So we go up, sit on the bed, watch TV, give each other back massages, and then she goes home.
 

Meier

Member
I've always been oblivious to this stuff and to when I'm doing anything that can be condoned as flirting myself. Good thing I've been in a relationship for awhile so I don't have to worry about it typically.
 

Solo

Member
Is not knowing a girl is into you as bad as thinking one is into you but really isn't?

It's worse.

Thinking a girl is into you who isn't results in a rejection/lulz at worst. Not knowing when someone into you results in you getting no play.
 
Is not knowing a girl is into you as bad as thinking one is into you but really isn't?

I'd say no. Most of these stories end with something like "i was stupid. I'd do it differently. Oh well"

Thinking someone likes you and then finding out they don't can be the same thing as above, but can also end in some heartbreak-like situations.
 

andylsun

Member
Is not knowing a girl is into you as bad as thinking one is into you but really isn't?

I think not knowing is a missed opportunity (as long as you are into them too) and that hurts longer than thinking they are into you and getting blown away/rejected
 

Kilrogg

paid requisite penance
Three stories:

1) So it's 2 AM and I'm sorta lost because the last train only brought me a few stations away from my dorm. I'm looking around the station to ask someone, anyone (passer-by, bus driver) if they know the way back to the area where I'm living, without much luck. Finally I see this one lone girl walking and I go out of my way to get near her and ask for directions. Here's how the exchange went:
Me: "Hey, erm, do you know how I can get to XXXX from here?"
Girl: "Yeah, sure, I live there! In fact I got lost countless times myself, so I know exactly the way now."
Me: "Great! Are you going home right now?"
Girl: "No, I'm going to this party."
Me <kinda puzzled that she's going to a party on her own at this late a time>: "Oh okay. So could you give me some directions please?"
Girl: "Sure, you go this way for a while, then turn left after the sign, straight ahead and you should get there eventually."
Me: "Okay. Hope I won't get lost, got a pretty lousy sense of direction."
Girl: "Well, I really wouldn't want you to get lost like I did back then, so you should definitely tell me when you're home <gives me her number>"
Me: "I'll definitely will, thanks!"
<gets home 40 minutes later>
I text her.
Me: "Thanks again, I finally got home. Your indications were perfect. I'll definitely pay that back." (I actually don't remember for sure that I typed that last line)
Girl: "Great, I'm glad that you got home blah blah blah."
I should mention that this was entirely in French, and French has a polite/formal "you" ("vous") and a casual "you" ("tu/toi"). Up until that last message we'd been using "vous" even though it can be awkward when you're in your early 20s. Only in that last message did she say "I'm glad that vous (tu?) got home". Meaning she was trying to act more friendly.

Even at the time I knew there was potential there.

I never replied or contacted her again.


2) This Chinese girl hangs out at a Japanese conversation group I go to. We get acquainted and all. One time another guy we got to know at the meetup, she and I decided to have dinner together at the guy's place. We get somewhat flirty (me going "won't you teach me Chinese?" to which she replies with a "Yeah, I will" in a playful manner). She had this Chine top, and when we got out of the apartment she goes "I can't button up my collar, could you help me?" I obliged but can't do it cause I'm fucking useless with my sweaty hands. She later told me via internet chat that she asked on purpose so we could have an opportunity to kiss, which I was completely clueless about.

Long story short: I had plenty of opportunities since that time to get with her, and we did get flirty on occasion (including explicit MSN chat), but preventing that were the fact that the other guy turned out to be a complete creep (didn't want to deal with him or risk having her put in danger), that some of her comments towards me hurt my pride (and rightfully so) and that she herself had her issues. Also, I think I let myself be somewhat cockblocked by my ex/best friend, although not entirely out of jealousy on her part.

I shouldn't regret it at all, cause honestly it would have been a week-long fling at best and she was a bit cray cray, and yet I do cause I've had so few girlfriends so far :/.


3) We're having a Christmas/New Year's Eve party at my friend's place with his girlfriend, his roommate and a girl friend of his roommate whom I know he was attracted to. Nice party, great food, good fun. When it's time to go to sleep, my friend and I had it all set up so the girl friend would have to sleep in another bed in the roommate's room. But when we tell her about it, she starts going "I think I'll sleep here on the floor", "here" being simultaneously where we had dinner and where I would be sleeping. We're all like "What? That's crazy, we have a bed in XXX's room, just go sleep there!" but she argues for a while. She told me later that she wanted to sleep in my bed with me. I also learned that she was not interested in the roommate.

This one I don't regret much because a) whatchu gonna do, I wasn't gonna be a dick to my friend's roommate who had a crush on her and would be sleeping in the room next to mine, and b) she too, as it turns out, was a bit cray cray.


I guess I attract lunatics.
 

Kilrogg

paid requisite penance
Also I had a case where I thought everything pointed to "yes, she wants to do me", but you'll see how fucked up it turned out to be. I'm making a separate post cause it's kinda off-topic.

Chatting over FB around midnight with a girl living in the same dorm as mine. At some point she asks me if I want to watch a movie in her room. That time I declined (can't remember why). Then it hit me that there might be something to it, so two days later I ask her if she's still up for a movie. She says yes, so I go to her room (again, must have been 11/12 PM).

We start watching the movie and I start to get touchy feely. I mean it's late and she was the one who originally invited me over, so why the heck not, right? I start massaging her a bit (she tells me I'm not massaging her hard enough, meaning my massage sucks). Eventually I start kissing her on the back of the neck, then slowly go up and finally go for the kiss. She doesn't reject me, so I'm like "all right!". I proceed to take off her shirt and play with her breasts... But eventually I realize that something seems off. I stop and ask her "Hey er... Do you want me to stop? If you don't wanna go further it's okay, I won't force you". After a few confused I-don't-knows I finally come to understand that she, in fact, didn't really want to do anything. Instead, we spent the entire night talking about relationships and stuff, and apparently the thing with her is that she just doesn't know how to reject advances, like, a guy making a move is inevitable and she should just accept it without fighting. She also told me she was a virgin.

She's Chinese by the way, and I'm given to understand that some Chinese/Asian women with a traditional mindset tend to be submissive like that. I'm glad I took the hint and dodged a bullet there, because to me that would have been almost like a rape.
 

Brofield

Member
Walked from a bar with a girl to a dorm. Ended up sitting on her bed with her and hugging. Then we stared at each others eyes for a moment and I said "ok I'm going to go to sleep now". She looked disappointed.

In retrospect it's hilarious and demonstrates how dense a persons mind can be given the right mental state.

This leaves me in tears; I actually burst out laughing.

Another time I was talking to these two girls and talking about how I was fairly successful at poker, they decide they want to play strip poker, after about 15-20 minutes they are both totally naked and I'm fully clothed except for my socks. And I say something along the lines of, well that was pretty fun what should we do now... I look back on that and kind of wonder how I've lived so long.

This also left me in tears, but with complete opposite emotion of laughing.
 
Im going to be honest:

I once received a HJ under a blanket from a girl who I considered a friend in front of her whole family while watching a movie. It was very down low though, so obviously no one knew. We never really talked about it after, and some months later we stopped talking.

4 years later I was on this life mission to apologize to everyone I ever hurt in my life, and she was on the list. I wrote her a letter asking why we stopped talking and grew distant.

Her reply was because I fkn liked you a lot, and you shit on me basically. I am so stupid, that I had no clue she liked me like that. It didn't hit me until I read her letter 4 years later that I put two and two together.

Jesus!!!!!!!!!!!!!
 
Im going to be honest:

I once received a HJ under a blanket from a girl who I considered a friend in front of her whole family while watching a movie. It was very down low though, so obviously no one knew. We never really talked about it after, and some months later we stopped talking.

4 years later I was on this life mission to apologize to everyone I ever hurt in my life, and she was on the list. I wrote her a letter asking why we stopped talking and grew distant.

Her reply was because I fkn liked you a lot, and you shit on me basically. I am so stupid, that I had no clue she liked me like that. It didn't hit me until I read her letter 4 years later that I put two and two together.

Jesus!!!!!!!!!!!!!

You got a HJ from her in front of her family and you thought she was just doing it for the hell of it?
 

Wallach

Member
Im going to be honest:

I once received a HJ under a blanket from a girl who I considered a friend in front of her whole family while watching a movie. It was very down low though, so obviously no one knew. We never really talked about it after, and some months later we stopped talking.

4 years later I was on this life mission to apologize to everyone I ever hurt in my life, and she was on the list. I wrote her a letter asking why we stopped talking and grew distant.

Her reply was because I fkn liked you a lot, and you shit on me basically. I am so stupid, that I had no clue she liked me like that. It didn't hit me until I read her letter 4 years later that I put two and two together.

Jesus!!!!!!!!!!!!!

This isn't anywhere in the vicinity of believable.
 
Im going to be honest:

I once received a HJ under a blanket from a girl who I considered a friend in front of her whole family while watching a movie. It was very down low though, so obviously no one knew. We never really talked about it after, and some months later we stopped talking.

4 years later I was on this life mission to apologize to everyone I ever hurt in my life, and she was on the list. I wrote her a letter asking why we stopped talking and grew distant.

Her reply was because I fkn liked you a lot, and you shit on me basically. I am so stupid, that I had no clue she liked me like that. It didn't hit me until I read her letter 4 years later that I put two and two together.

Jesus!!!!!!!!!!!!!


She gave you a stealth hand job and you didn't realize she was into you?
 

zero_suit

Member
Im going to be honest:

I once received a HJ under a blanket from a girl who I considered a friend in front of her whole family while watching a movie. It was very down low though, so obviously no one knew. We never really talked about it after, and some months later we stopped talking.

4 years later I was on this life mission to apologize to everyone I ever hurt in my life, and she was on the list. I wrote her a letter asking why we stopped talking and grew distant.

Her reply was because I fkn liked you a lot, and you shit on me basically. I am so stupid, that I had no clue she liked me like that. It didn't hit me until I read her letter 4 years later that I put two and two together.

Jesus!!!!!!!!!!!!!

.......

There are no words.
 

MrToughPants

Brian Burke punched my mom
My grade 11 french teacher in Quebec used to rub herself on me, I sat in the back of class, she was a notorious cradle robber but she was in her 50s. A substitute teacher put the moves on me twice, who happened to be the aunt of my friend...awkward as fuck when everyone including him were telling me to hit it.

That's advances by teachers, I get hit on quite a bit with my magnificent physique but I won't bore GAF with my Godliness.
 

Log4Girlz

Member
Im going to be honest:

I once received a HJ under a blanket from a girl who I considered a friend in front of her whole family while watching a movie. It was very down low though, so obviously no one knew. We never really talked about it after, and some months later we stopped talking.

4 years later I was on this life mission to apologize to everyone I ever hurt in my life, and she was on the list. I wrote her a letter asking why we stopped talking and grew distant.

Her reply was because I fkn liked you a lot, and you shit on me basically. I am so stupid, that I had no clue she liked me like that. It didn't hit me until I read her letter 4 years later that I put two and two together.

Jesus!!!!!!!!!!!!!

In your shoes I would be confused too. I mean, how are you supposed to just assume a girl likes you just because she's giving your a handjob? Women are fucking mysteries wrapped in enigmas.
 

MrToughPants

Brian Burke punched my mom
Im going to be honest:

I once received a HJ under a blanket from a girl who I considered a friend in front of her whole family while watching a movie. It was very down low though, so obviously no one knew. We never really talked about it after, and some months later we stopped talking.

4 years later I was on this life mission to apologize to everyone I ever hurt in my life, and she was on the list. I wrote her a letter asking why we stopped talking and grew distant.

Her reply was because I fkn liked you a lot, and you shit on me basically. I am so stupid, that I had no clue she liked me like that. It didn't hit me until I read her letter 4 years later that I put two and two together.

Jesus!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Did you cum?
 

ZaCH3000

Member
My grade 11 french teacher in Quebec used to rub herself on me, I sat in the back of class, she was a notorious cradle robber but she was in her 50s. A substitute teacher put the moves on me twice, who happened to be the aunt of my friend...awkward as fuck when everyone including him were telling me to hit it.

That's advances by teachers, I get hit on quite a bit with my magnificent physique but I won't bore GAF with my Godliness.

Want to have a god-off?
 

Duderz

Banned
Im going to be honest:

I once received a HJ under a blanket from a girl who I considered a friend in front of her whole family while watching a movie. It was very down low though, so obviously no one knew. We never really talked about it after, and some months later we stopped talking.

4 years later I was on this life mission to apologize to everyone I ever hurt in my life, and she was on the list. I wrote her a letter asking why we stopped talking and grew distant.

Her reply was because I fkn liked you a lot, and you shit on me basically. I am so stupid, that I had no clue she liked me like that. It didn't hit me until I read her letter 4 years later that I put two and two together.

Jesus!!!!!!!!!!!!!

There's never been a more appropriate combo of avatar + post like this.
 

Amagon

Member
Im going to be honest:

I once received a HJ under a blanket from a girl who I considered a friend in front of her whole family while watching a movie. It was very down low though, so obviously no one knew. We never really talked about it after, and some months later we stopped talking.

4 years later I was on this life mission to apologize to everyone I ever hurt in my life, and she was on the list. I wrote her a letter asking why we stopped talking and grew distant.

Her reply was because I fkn liked you a lot, and you shit on me basically. I am so stupid, that I had no clue she liked me like that. It didn't hit me until I read her letter 4 years later that I put two and two together.

Jesus!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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I am the king of Clueless when it comes to sexual and romantic advances from women. I just would not even know where to begin, i'm terrible at signs and confuse myself as well.

I literally had two chicks after me within a short time span who apparently had major sexual attractions for me and i was just clueless as all fuck, it got to the point where they kind of forced themselves on me physically, nevermind the fact they would even do that though since we we're not dating at that point.

One of the best SO i have ever had the pleasure of dating in my lifetime literally took the drastic and crazy step of pretending to faint in front of me to kind of jump start some kind of friendship/relationship. Her goal was for me to catch her in my arms since i was literally right behind her in line and what did i do? My dumb ass just stepped out of her way and she cracked her skull on the ground haha. Still though, it worked out in the end and i can say that she made a difference in my life most women will never be able to do in my opinion.

Also, i definitely had the chance to sweep an indian woman off her feet who i had a mad crush on but i at the time just had low self-esteem and confidence issues therefore i used every excuse in the book not to ask her out or admit my true feelings for her. By the time i mustered up the courage, i had been friend-zoned and that was all my fault.
 

Nibel

Member
Im going to be honest:

I once received a HJ under a blanket from a girl who I considered a friend in front of her whole family while watching a movie. It was very down low though, so obviously no one knew. We never really talked about it after, and some months later we stopped talking.

4 years later I was on this life mission to apologize to everyone I ever hurt in my life, and she was on the list. I wrote her a letter asking why we stopped talking and grew distant.

Her reply was because I fkn liked you a lot, and you shit on me basically. I am so stupid, that I had no clue she liked me like that. It didn't hit me until I read her letter 4 years later that I put two and two together.

Jesus!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I am the king of Clueless when it comes to sexual and romantic advances from women. I just would not even know where to begin, i'm terrible at signs and confuse myself as well.

I literally had two chicks after me within a short time span who apparently had major sexual attractions for me and i was just clueless as all fuck, it got to the point where they kind of forced themselves on me physically, nevermind the fact they would even do that though since we we're not dating at that point.

One of the best SO i have ever had the pleasure of dating in my lifetime literally took the drastic and crazy step of pretending to faint in front of me to kind of jump start some kind of friendship/relationship. Her goal was for me to catch her in my arms since i was literally right behind her in line and what did i do? My dumb ass just stepped out of her way and she cracked her skull on the ground haha. Still though, it worked out in the end and i can say that she made a difference in my life most women will never be able to do in my opinion.

Also, i definitely had the chance to sweep an indian woman off her feet who i had a mad crush on but i at the time just had low self-esteem and confidence issues therefore i used every excuse in the book not to ask her out or admit my true feelings for her. By the time i mustered up the courage, i had been friend-zoned and that was all my fault.

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Brofield

Member
One of the best SO i have ever had the pleasure of dating in my lifetime literally took the drastic and crazy step of pretending to faint in front of me to kind of jump start some kind of friendship/relationship. Her goal was for me to catch her in my arms since i was literally right behind her in line and what did i do? My dumb ass just stepped out of her way and she cracked her skull on the ground haha. Still though, it worked out in the end and i can say that she made a difference in my life most women will never be able to do in my opinion.

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Brofield

Member
I'll volunteer to make a Slowpoke thread logo.

This depresses me that this thread hasn't seen any updates in ages.

WELL, I do have a new story to tell, at least.

Back in September of last year a friend of mine wanted to introduce me to one of her friends. Apparently she thought I was cute, we talked a lot, and it was all good. Later on though, she confessed to me that she was bi, but, in her words, "went mostly for the muff." Well, at that point I figured there wasn't a snowball's chance in hell for me, so I stopped showing any sort of romantic interest in her, but we kept talking regularly and seeing each other when we could.

Fast forward to about a month ago, she invited me over to her house for watching TV and movies. I suggested we watch Pirate Radio, and it was good. Had I not been so invested in the movie, I might have taken into account she was spread rather seductively on the couch and trying to make eye contact with me for the whole time. It was after her mother came home I felt I should leave, even though she suggested I stick around for more movies . Funny enough as I walked out the door I was thinking she didn't even want to do anything with me, she's texting me on the drive home saying she thought it adorable how shy I was, and how she thought it was such a waste for wearing her sexy underwear when she didn't even get it ripped off her. Even had to send pictures to drive home the point of how clueless I was.
 

Derwind

Member
I was in an acquatincaces dorm near my own, I was chilling in the living area eating sunflower seeds. A girl that I knew but never had any deep conversations with asked me to stay up with her watching movies in her room. I replied I have a test tomorrow and walked off...

She was hot and well I'm not exactly above average....

She stopped talking to me all together.

So in hindsight, I assumed I fucked up in someway. And I think it stems from that night.

You live and you learn.
 

Syf

Banned
In high school, grade 11 I think, I was talking to a girl on MSN and we got to talking about a movie. She said she wanted to see it but had nobody to go with but me.

I didn't ask her to go. :/
 
When i was 16, girl i had a crush on for like 2 years dropped big hints about me taking her to our prom (much bigger deal here in the UK because we only get the one during our whole time at school), but i was too dense to get the hint.

She told me about it a couple of years ago on Facebook (this is like 9 years later) and how she had this crush on me for a couple of years.

But it's okay because she has this body building boyfriend who goes to law school now.

FML.
 
I have had two experiences that will always haunt me.

1. One time right after high school ended a girl drove to my house in the middle of the night on a weekend to "kidnap" me to go see a late movie. She paid for my ticket and had her head on my shoulder the entire second half of the movie. On the way back home, she asked if I wanted to stay at her place instead. I declined, because I was a total idiot and I thought she was just being nice.

2. A woman studying abroad in one of my college classes invited me out to hang out after class one day. I was single at the time and I totally forgot that it was Valentine's day. She was really nice but turns out she was older than I expected (mid 30s) and I was younger than she expected (early 20s). She said something about having a kid and I basically bailed out as fast as I could because I thought this was romance city. Turns out she's divorced and her son lives in Canada, and she wasn't looking for anything serious. Whoops.

Since these I've been a lot better at picking up different signals. It's handy, especially when you don't want a relationship with someone. I once received a text from a girl asking if I wanted to come over and "teach me how to play poker ;)" like, are you even trying?
 

Seanspeed

Banned
I've gotta wonder how many of the stories here are examples of just being scared/shy rather than not being able to understand what's going on.
 

Astral

Member
Oh look this got bumped. I can only think of one instance where a girl showed interest in me. A few months ago, I was in my college campus walking over to the library to meet a friend. While I'm walking there some gorgeous brunette walks toward me and smiles at me as she passes by. I looked around to see if she smiled at a friend or something but there was no one else there. It was directed at me. So I find my friend sitting on a bench and I sit down next to him. About 10 minutes later she walks by again and smiles at me a second time. So what did I do? Absolutely nothing. At the moment I just thought it was weird. In hindsight, I realize I'm a fucking idiot. This girl was fucking beautiful and I just ignored her.
 

Seanspeed

Banned
Oh look this got bumped. I can only think of one instance where a girl showed interest in me. A few months ago, I was in my college campus walking over to the library to meet a friend. While I'm walking there some gorgeous brunette walks toward me and smiles at me as she passes by. I looked around to see if she smiled at a friend or something but there was no one else there. It was directed at me. So I find my friend sitting on a bench and I sit down next to him. About 10 minutes later she walks by again and smiles at me a second time. So what did I do? Absolutely nothing. At the moment I just thought it was weird. In hindsight, I realize I'm a fucking idiot. This girl was fucking beautiful and I just ignored her.
Somebody smiling at you probably isn't anything to regret jumping into action over.
 
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