HappyBivouac
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Not my first time, but my first time without a condom ranks up there (which was not too long after my actual first time). Let's just say that I was not prepared for that sensation.
wait wut
Not my first time, but my first time without a condom ranks up there (which was not too long after my actual first time). Let's just say that I was not prepared for that sensation.
wait wut
I've been with girls who were pretty much already "lubricated" before they were even undressed. And this was with having sex on the regular, so it's not like she was starved. It just depends. There are so many factors that go into a woman's sex drive and preferences, and it can vary widely.
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Not prepared as in without a rubber on, it feels totally different. As in the first thought that enters your mind is "woweee," followed closely by "uh-oh." Or in other terms, I think some of the half-pipe runs from the Olympics might have taken longer.
Ok, because I read it as "ew gross there's vagina all over my weewee"
Ok, because I read it as "ew gross there's vagina all over my weewee"
I've been with girls who were pretty much already "lubricated" before they were even undressed.
Okay...
In general it takes more than five minutes of foreplay for the woman to become properly aroused and for the vagina to properly lubricate itself, thus making sex pleasurable.
Not entirely true, depends totally on the girl.
Honestly I don't think I've ever been with a girl that takes 5 minutes+. Hell, current girl is like....20 seconds.
Okay...
In general it takes more than five minutes of foreplay for the woman to become properly aroused and for the vagina to properly lubricate itself, thus making sex pleasurable.
Even if she doesn't "need" it, it's not a bad option. It's not all about making sure she's ready for you......
Not entirely true, depends totally on the girl.
Honestly I don't think I've ever been with a girl that takes 5 minutes+. Hell, current girl is like....20 seconds.
I've only ever been with one girl, but she's never taken more than five minutes to get... ready. She hardly lets me spend longer than five minutes on foreplay anyway. I don't think this is an uncommon thing; I'd say taking longer than five/ten minutes would be more uncommon if you're young.
So glad everyone has only been with women who are aroused in under five minutes. I sincerely hope that continues for you guys.
We're just refuting your generalized claim with anecdotes. Of course it doesn't apply universally.
I try to be honest as possible during sex. I'd much rather work on pleasing the other person than have them wasting their time trying to get me off when I know I can't.
Studies show that average arousal time for women (And men, actually) is ten to eleven minutes. Not sure what the standard deviation is. Generalized, maybe, but scientifically generalized.
Studies show that average arousal time for women (And men, actually) is ten to eleven minutes. Not sure what the standard deviation is. Generalized, maybe, but scientifically generalized.
What do I do if a girl wants me to choke her
Huh? Who said I was only thinking about me? We were talking about the pure mechanics of being lubricated enough or not, correct?
What do I do if a girl wants me to choke her
You do it!
Hm... let me think about it...
Hm... i was masturbating and my girlfriend was looking at me doing it and she got some in the eye when it came out?
Yeah, that's about the "worst" "sex" that happened to me. Regular sex has been great so far.
Okay...
In general it takes more than five minutes of foreplay for the woman to become properly aroused and for the vagina to properly lubricate itself, thus making sex pleasurable.
Your girlfriend was just watching you masturbate?
How many women have you polled for this stat?
Could I see these studies? I'm not trying to be a dick, but I'm genuinely curious in the details.
How many women have you polled for this stat?
What do I do if a girl wants me to choke her
I got distracted reading about this and but here's an article discussing the study
I'm bi, so....a few?
Alright, what does nice pussy smell like?
(To clarify, I'm not VirginGAF here. I'm GayGAF.)
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Not prepared as in without a rubber on, it feels totally different. As in the first thought that enters your mind is "woweee," followed closely by "uh-oh." Or in other terms, I think some of the half-pipe runs from the Olympics might have taken longer.
Your girlfriend was just watching you masturbate?
SecondedMemory, that was perfect
It's a thing.
Seriously though, I don't have trouble with sex but I don't really know why what I do works. I just do whatever feels right and it's great for everyone involved. Granted, I don't have a lot of one-night stands. Usually sex happens with someone I already have this mental bond with, so the feelings are gonna be totally different. In that case, "what feels right" usually is, because you understand each other physically and mentally. You're not even trying to notice signals or anything, but you notice and respond without realizing it.
But with a random hookup? People always give this generalized "there are so many signals and it's so easy to respond to them" bullshit. Alright, great. The internet shall henceforth know you as a god of sex or whatever. What signals are you talking about? What do you do?
Get a grip.
I've never had a random hook-up, so I have no idea. I didn't want to come off as coy or portraying myself as a master in bed, either. I think I do rather well, though, but that would only be due to not having any "moves", and to just find the whole thing extremely fun and interesting. I wouldn't tie any pride to it, either, because that would just leave me less likely to take in criticism. I'm much more about trying to bite here and tweak there, maybe while also touching over there. Then see how they react, feel their response through my fingers, through their expression. It sounds very ethereal and vague, but that's because it is.
I'd say, read up on techniques and things like "how to give oral well", but some of them might go "then tease her by nibbling up thigh, then down the other, but skipping the in between. The wait will build it up for her" - they're great tips, but you can't do that every time. It's all about just being spontaneous. Just do. Don't necessarily focus on her pleasure. I think it's amazing to see pleasure in her, so I like doing things that provokes that response. If I was there to plainly give her an orgasm, I'd probably not do so well. But I have to admit, I've picked up some of my core stuff from what others have written. You just have to process that all. Learn about the g-spot and even the e-spot. Just chew the information and try it out in your own way. If you're in a steady relationship, ask questions. Definitely not always, but sometimes it's good to just ask "could I touch you in a better way?" - I asked that once, and she proceeded to show me how she liked it. I just watched, which was awesome, then tried it out myself. Then I got very explicit feedback on when it was done right and not. Then you learn something about why sometimes it's just awesome, while other times it simply isn't.
She also once told me how she was amazed by my attitude in bed, pointing out a time early in our relationship that, after sex, I lied between her legs and just looked and marveled. I think it's just one of those things you'll be good at if you think it's fun.
My gf has told me if she ever caught me masturbating she would offer to help me out, but I don't think she knows how weird and sad it looks. There's nothing sexy about jerking off.Huh. Seeing as I look and sound like Jabba the Hutt when I masturbate, I don't think I'd be comfortable doing it with my gf watching.
My gf has told me if she ever caught me masturbating she would offer to help me out, but I don't think she knows how weird and sad it looks. There's nothing sexy about jerking off.
I think we're on the same page, then.
My first sexual relationship, at 19, was with a girl who seemed really.. non-hormonal. It's like she wanted sex because she thought she was supposed to want it, but the actual chemistry was barely in her. She once said something about her mom giving her pills in her pre-teens "because her boobs were growing too fast and too early" which sounded pretty fucked up to me. Dunno if that has something to do with hormonal issues. Anyway, sometimes the sex would suddenly be amazing, but usually she was kind of only half into it. It didn't feel genuine. Somehow we stayed together for 3.5 years, and that did a number on me psychologically I think. Worried too much that I just couldn't please her. We were so incompatible on so many levels, though, but we got attached.
Fast-forward a couple years with a few flings, a few heartbreaks, some good sex but not a lot of "love," attachment or emotion. Current girlfriend has made all the difference in the world now. She's... relatively inexperienced and yet it's so spontaneous and fun and amazing between us. Sorry for the brag if that counts as one. Sadly, we're long distance now. In fact we're about as far as we can possibly be from each other without leaving planet Earth. Sucks. Trying to keep the romance up somehow.
That whole tangent aside, my point is that I really do believe some people are less sexually compatible than others. If you get with someone and, despite having feelings for each other, you just can't get on the same wavelength sexually, it isn't necessarily all your fault. S/he might just be the wrong person. So keep that in mind, I guess.
What do I do if a girl wants me to choke her